Thursday, August 25, 2016

Cocks Not Glocks: Make Love, Not Gun Violence.

I'm not posting this article from a pro or anti gun standpoint. I'm just amused by the protest and yes, marveling at the stupidity of the Texas legislature to try to control how many dildos someone can own. They're like children.

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Body Shaming.

Body shaming is an odd thing. Certainly in a historical context we have been subjected to it more than men. Part of that stems from ancient times when the "worth" of a female was based on her ability to make the man "look good" from an accomplishment standpoint, and to have child bearing hips for breeding and decent tits for breast feeding. Of course the two latter examples are not based on biology because a "hot chick" could have a barren womb or insufficient milk ducts, not to mention have poor mothering skills on top of that.



Most of my life I was disliked by other women for being one of those "skinny bitches" and with the ever expanding girth of the adipose laden gluteus maximus's of Americans, both female and male, its not any better. People in really decent shape are an anomly these days.



And then within the fetish world there are those that get off on verbal humilation over their..."inadequte appendange endowment" and for some, even other body parts. Some Pro-Dommes have made a fortune off of that alone, and surprisingly to some, there are quite a few women who enjoy the same verbal treatment.



The BBW fetish is huge these days. Thats helped non-porn women some with body acceptance based on size. Good for the ego, not so good for the arteries. Obviously from a longevity and health standpoint it would be better if everyone had a proper body mass index thats unique/right for them. But outside of the health issue...people should just be who they are, love themselves and ignore the critics. :)



Here's a photo of me with my little "poochy" belly sticking out. I get asked quite often when I'm expecting, lol. So what? I'm 5' 5" and about 125 and have been the same most of my adult life. So someone is always going to complain, question or "lend advice"....I just laugh and walk away. 



I only mention this as sometimes I feel inundated with articles, blog posts, social media harassment, diet ads, contouring, liposuction, Botex injections, doesn't anyone else get tired of it and one day just decide....fuck it... I am what and who I am and I'm not going to waste my life trying to live up to other peoples expectations.

A sex-fueled, Playboy Mansion-like cult...

Cool! I'm so happy.
Can we still get in?
Are there tickets?
Can we get a seat?


Oh...wait...never mind.
Its just the "good old boys" from Fox News. :)



Is There Only One Way To Submit?

On a social media forum I sometimes visit a submissive gentleman, (frustrated with finding a real life dominant woman) posed the question that if there is a number of ways to dominate a submissive, was it true that there was only way to submit? And further he wondered (in an effort to appeal to a dominant woman) if a sub has wishes and desires should they voice them?


In my opinion, open conversation and the free exchange of ideas and desires is paramount. I don't want some submissive that's a doormat. I mean I already have a doormat. :)


I like bright intelligent people with opinions. I want to know their history, thoughts, hopes, dreams, what they are passionate about, what makes them tick, what excites them...and then I would use that information against them to overpower them and make them submit to me, lol. :)


Be who you are. Just because you're submissive doesn't mean you don't have standards and don't deserve happiness. Refuse to settle for some self proclaimed second rate "Domme" who is not authentic and doesn't have a true interest and passion for this on an emotional....and sexual level.

Stop looking for a "Pre-Made" already-packaged-with-years-of-experience "MomDom" or FemDom or Mistress (whatever it is you seek) and find an open minded kinky woman to learn with, to share, and grow into it together.


Its not like in real life we are sitting at home with a wardrobe full of 1950s pinafores and a sturdy hairbrush aching for someone to take across our knee. Its more of a development and progressive attitude and set of urges that start small and grow as everyone learns more. Sure, some of us have a more natural aptitude for it, but for some others its like a primal beast that has to be unchained. 


I mean we are taught in society to not hit, to be polite, in many cultures to defer to men, (the patriarchal structure) and to be all sweet and giving and to suppress our own desires and urges. For many women (especially prior to the Internet) we don't even know there are guys out there that are willing to be submissive.


What's interesting to me is (and I'm not a fan) the mixed fighting stuff with women. That Ronda Rouse girl and others like her are evidence of what many of us already knew, we are just as willing and capable of being violent, aggressive, sadistic, controlling and a plethora of similarly related "attributes" that may relate to what many think of as ideal in the "sexually dominant female" realm. 


The worst thing someone can do is to just sit at home and run endless ads, answer the few replies they get, and be in competition with about 47 billion other submissive guys. Right down the street, right outside your door, at the market, the gym, walking her dogs, the single mother next door, everywhere are women that have sexual urges and desires that...while they may not match yours exactly, and nor should they, are still open minded and may be even more than you can imagine if you just give them a chance.


View it as something akin to prostitution (Oh yea...I "went there") where single horny women are sitting at home, and guys are at the strip club or picking up hookers, paying for Pro-Dommes, sex chat, or cyber-web-cam-virtual-reality-some-sort-of-app-whatever-the-stupid-fuck.....it makes no sense. :) 


Get your asses off the chair and out the door and stop obsessing over "FemDom" imagery and outlandish sex stories that are not based on reality.... and live your lives.

Or not, what the hell do I care....I just want some decent Tacos, lol. :)