Thanksgiving (Repost....cuz I'm too fucking lazy to write anything new.) :)

So...there I was immediately post-feast here on this fine Thanksgiving afternoon. I spent the week preparing, shopping, planning, checking recipes and (hopefully) remembering every detail. I spent most of the day cooking, baking and making sure my family and guests were full, sated and happy. 
As is typical after this sort of massive meal, especially with Turkey and the Tryptophan.......the various males either went home or relocated their bloated carcasses to the living room to watch the stupid football games.

While I am a workout fanatic, a freak really, often spending 2 to 3 hours a day working out, I'm not a sports fan. I mean sure.......I enjoy seeing the guys that have muscles, tight asses with huge thighs, but beyond that, no thanks. Anyhow, beyond hearing the game from the living room, while walking around I would catch glimpses of the game. Remarkable how hard they smash into each other and the sound of impact when they do. 

Which led me to........why is it that contact sports are viewed as perfectly acceptable in society but kinky sex, S&M, is not seen the same by the majority of the masses? I mean you have football, boxing, wrestling, martial arts kickboxing, MMA stuff, and whatever other sports that involve direct hitting, etc.. Now here we have activities viewed as....manly, a builder of character, healthy competition, and all that Mom, faux patriotism, and apple pie nonsense. Hard hitting, cracking heads, bruising and knocking people flat on their backs....or out....is a "good" thing to many people, right?

Take many of the same motions, or hand/foot movements, couple it with the intent of sexual arousal or something akin, and suddenly its a perversion. Instead of punching or kicking to knock your opponent out, you're spanking or slapping or kicking or kneeing a submissive male in the balls. Instead of using martial arts weapons for a competition, you're using a cane to whip and punish a bare bottom. Rather than wrestling on a mat for a trophy, you're wrestling with a sub and maybe it ends up with a little forced face sitting. The face sitting *is* the trophy in this case, lol. :)

We all know that one segment of the opposition or detractors is the religious right. Those that...for whatever incomprehensible reason...view their being born with genitals as a dirty little sin. They whom think that using those same genitals for anything other than marital sexual relations with the goal of reproduction......in the dark, lights off, once a month, only on Thursdays when its raining......silly nonsense like that. Yea, those people.

So, slapping someone in the face for "sport" is great but doing it for dominance or punishment is a sin?

Football players swatting (spanking) each other on the butt is part of a manly sporting ritual, but when I spank my submissive its a perverted sin?

Getting hit, or hitting a guy in the balls during sport is acceptable but me slapping my husband's balls is a catastrophic breakdown in the natural order of patriarchal biblical based rule and is a sin and to some a crime?

Two sweaty guys, nearly nude, grappling, groping and crotch bumping on a wrestling mat is a sport that goes back to the original Olympics. A FemDom doing the same, ending up with the victory and his tongue in her ass is a threat to conventional societal norms? It should be outlawed lest some innocent child happens across it and in later years, reenacts the same? 

Violence for sport, trophies, money and fame is a laudable pursuit and expenditure of time and money but do the identical acts for sexual pleasure and its a sin and left to some....should they have the political power.....it would also be a crime. Being violent is good, but being horny (recall the overfed limp dicked semi-comatose cuckold husband on the couch mentioned earlier?) and perverted is horrid? And people think I'm crazy? :)

Conan Submits To A Dominatrix.

Conan gets disciplined by professional dominatrix Lady Velvet Steel.

Can you go back to Vanilla?

(A reader contacted me privately and asked the following....reposted with his permission of course.)


Vanessa,
Do you think someone, a man or woman and a couple, once bitten by the intensity of the hotwife-cuck fem-dom dynamic, could ever be truly satisfied without it? Could they ever go back to purely "vanilla?"  (Name withheld by me.)

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(My reply to "No Name"),
Vanilla?
No.
Are there other ways to get fulfillment and still be happy?
Sure. 

I just view it as it being as much a part of our makeup and nature as is ones preference for the genres of books, movies or music we enjoy. Some people will always, always, always prefer classical over any other type. If suddenly there was no more classical music, they'd find something relatively close to it and still find comparative happiness with that. Apply the same to sports, or food or whatever else. 

But while your question was about one sort of specific act/fetish within the larger realm (yes, you mentioned FemDom dynamic) its hard to put into context what "vanilla" is to the individual. If someone thinks oral sex is "kinky" and suddenly had to go without, there is still normal penetrative sex. So, would they still have some satisfaction? Sure.

I would point out to you that you've never been "vanilla" in the classical sense as you are bi. To a hardcore socially conservative....that's already a sin and makes you of questionable moral turpitude. Meaning a perverted freak in their eyes. So its all sort of relative to begin with.

For myself, if all avenues of "kinky sex" were suddenly cut off from me, I suppose I'd have normal intercourse a few times a year and that's it.   :)

Cuckolding Pros and Cons

Saving money on maids as the cuckold does most of the housework.

Saving money on Viagra as his ability to get erect is of no relevance to my sexual satisfaction.

Saving money on Rabbits and batteries as his well trained tongue is always at my disposal.....always.

Not having to worry about his questions of if I desire other men as they are fucking me in front of his face....literally.

Not having to worry about his questions of whether or not he was "good enough" as the answer is always......no.

Not having to worry about his questions of whether or not I came as he'll know when I soak his face and tongue.

Not having to worry about left over condom wrappers, used condoms or spilled or leaking sperm as cuckold deals with all messes.....like it or not.

Having to endlessly sift through ads and run ads and reply to ads from wanna-be Bulls who just don't get it. Having to endlessly sift through e-mails from guys that ask to be cuckolded, dominated, facesat, ballbusted, wanting to buy panties, socks, lingerie, asking for photos, videos, sexting, chats, IMs, while totally ignoring the point that my profile and/or ad clearly states I am not looking for submissive men and are not now, nor have ever been, nor ever will be a ProDom. 

I get it guys, dominate women are hard to find but I'm just a simple little average housewife who happens to dominate and cuckold her husband. I don't "outsource" my sexual needs (to subs, sissies, cuckolds or wimps..... real men are welcome to apply) and I also don't run any sort of Domme/sub introduction. I wish I did and could, but I don't and can't so you have to find your own.  :)

Cuckold Losers?

Do you think men that get cuckolded are losers? I saw this on a thread somewhere and it made me think about several aspects of this interesting question/accusation.

For one thing, I'm going to mostly discount the percent of married couples that use a form of cuckoldry for reproduction. That's not only a whole topic of its own, but very separate to the one that I engage in.....which is about my pleasure. Sure, technically a guy who's shooting blanks and unable to impregnate his wife could be considered to have "inferior sperm". But then that opens the door to the discussion of women who, for a multitude of reasons, are unable to become pregnant on their side of the coupling. And I never mock other women (well, with the exception of politicians, gold-diggers, Kardashians and Gwyneth Paltrow, lol)  especially when it comes to a serious issue like reproduction and the enormous emotional issues that can accompany it.

No, I'm talking about the sexually inferior men with small dicks, or those that ejaculate far too soon, or those with overall lousy lovemaking, or fucking skills. Those that just simply can not rock her boat, be it wife, girlfriend or Mistress.

Now, do I see them as losers in life?
No.
A loser as far as intelligence, kindness, compassion or dedication?
No.
A loser in the ability to provide for himself and family?
No.
Economic earning potential, ability to workout, self defense or patriotism?
No.
Are they, in my book at least, "losers" in that they are unable to satisfy a woman with their penis?
Yes.
Are they losers in they have to use tongue, fingers, vibrators or other means to get her off?
Yes.

I mean I value their motivation and dedication to using whatever alternate means, methods or devices to ensure that their vastly better half has the orgasms she wants and deserves, that is commendable and I applaud them for that. But if they can't provide a long and thick cock, that can't last for at least.......say 15 minutes minimum, that hard drilling, pussy pounding, toe curling, make her squirt, swear, perhaps invoke the name of God or Jesus, type of orgasms.......yea, sexually a loser.

Do I have less respect for them as a man....as a human being....hell no.....of course not.

Do I have less respect for them as a man....as a worthy sex partner.......hell yes......I mean they're great overall, except for one thing, one tiny little inadequate thing.......:) 

(As Google without warning deleted my old blogs, I'm reposting some posts I wrote in past that were stored elsewhere. For those that may have read them before, just ignore. For those that have not....they may be enjoyable to read. )

Transparent Homophobic Comments?

 Have you ever noticed that whenever any homophobic nutcase wants to protest the advances in equality for gays and lesbians they almost invariably use the following two terms?

"Stop shoving your homosexual rights in my face!"
"Stop shoving your gay rights down my throat!"

What are we to glean from this? A little Freudian slip? I mean they see gay rights (and gay people in general) as being nothing other then cock sucking and/or pussy eating lesbians right? Is that why they always refer to either the face or mouth/throat? You never see one of them proclaim loudly in a public setting, "Stop shoving your gay business up my ass!"

At least I've never heard anyone say that. 

Sad how they can't grasp that this is simply today's version of the civil rights movement of the 50's and 60's. Or women's struggle to gain parity in compensation, or our right to vote and all those other "pesky" little issues that we bother the white male dominated power structure with. :)

Saucy Faux Sex Experts.

I freely admit to being sort of out of the loop on many things but increasingly I've come across a plethora of videos on YouTube with little 20 year olds blathering on and on about a variety of sexual fetishes and kinks.....that they seem to have zero understanding of.

What I don't get is......why? I can't see any indication they are doing it for financial gain, no sign of potential remuneration so that can't be the impetus. Based on their own comments they don't engage in any fetish type lifestyle so its not based on personal desires nor interest. I can only assume its a rather shallow need to be "seen" on a social media site. I guess the need for fame makes them bloviate on topics they know nothing about with the hopes of filling some void in their shallow lives. Its just stupid though....its like an English only speaking atheist saying Mass....in Latin, lol.

What is disturbing is that viewers will see them as an "expert" and assume the garbage they're spewing is fact or reality. Its not.....and it contributes to the endless dumbing down of Americans (and others). It also helps to ensure that with the fallacious diatribes their selling, more confused people with a sincere and genuine desire to find a suitable partner.....won't. Unrealistic expectations, false hopes and misinformation does not assist others in finding a mate when the information being feed to them is so totally wrong.

Its just so sad. Sex and my style of Female Domination rule has been a huge part of my life and very fulfilling to me. I hate the thought that some might go their whole lives never being able to experience the same thing...because the "advice" their getting is from people that have zero knowledge about it.