Can you go back to Vanilla?

(A reader contacted me privately and asked the following....reposted with his permission of course.)


Vanessa,
Do you think someone, a man or woman and a couple, once bitten by the intensity of the hotwife-cuck fem-dom dynamic, could ever be truly satisfied without it? Could they ever go back to purely "vanilla?"  (Name withheld by me.)

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(My reply to "No Name"),
Vanilla?
No.
Are there other ways to get fulfillment and still be happy?
Sure. 

I just view it as it being as much a part of our makeup and nature as is ones preference for the genres of books, movies or music we enjoy. Some people will always, always, always prefer classical over any other type. If suddenly there was no more classical music, they'd find something relatively close to it and still find comparative happiness with that. Apply the same to sports, or food or whatever else. 

But while your question was about one sort of specific act/fetish within the larger realm (yes, you mentioned FemDom dynamic) its hard to put into context what "vanilla" is to the individual. If someone thinks oral sex is "kinky" and suddenly had to go without, there is still normal penetrative sex. So, would they still have some satisfaction? Sure.

I would point out to you that you've never been "vanilla" in the classical sense as you are bi. To a hardcore socially conservative....that's already a sin and makes you of questionable moral turpitude. Meaning a perverted freak in their eyes. So its all sort of relative to begin with.

For myself, if all avenues of "kinky sex" were suddenly cut off from me, I suppose I'd have normal intercourse a few times a year and that's it.   :)