On a social media forum I sometimes visit a submissive gentleman, (frustrated with finding a real life dominant woman) posed the question that if there is a number of ways to dominate a submissive, was it true that there was only way to submit? And further he wondered (in an effort to appeal to a dominant woman) if a sub has wishes and desires should they voice them?
In my opinion, open conversation and the free exchange of ideas and desires is paramount. I don't want some submissive that's a doormat. I mean I already have a doormat. :)
I like bright intelligent people with opinions. I want to know their history, thoughts, hopes, dreams, what they are passionate about, what makes them tick, what excites them...and then I would use that information against them to overpower them and make them submit to me, lol. :)
Be who you are. Just because you're submissive doesn't mean you don't have standards and don't deserve happiness. Refuse to settle for some self proclaimed second rate "Domme" who is not authentic and doesn't have a true interest and passion for this on an emotional....and sexual level.
Stop looking for a "Pre-Made" already-packaged-with-years-of-experience "MomDom" or FemDom or Mistress (whatever it is you seek) and find an open minded kinky woman to learn with, to share, and grow into it together.
Its not like in real life we are sitting at home with a wardrobe full of 1950s pinafores and a sturdy hairbrush aching for someone to take across our knee. Its more of a development and progressive attitude and set of urges that start small and grow as everyone learns more. Sure, some of us have a more natural aptitude for it, but for some others its like a primal beast that has to be unchained.
I mean we are taught in society to not hit, to be polite, in many cultures to defer to men, (the patriarchal structure) and to be all sweet and giving and to suppress our own desires and urges. For many women (especially prior to the Internet) we don't even know there are guys out there that are willing to be submissive.
What's interesting to me is (and I'm not a fan) the mixed fighting stuff with women. That Ronda Rouse girl and others like her are evidence of what many of us already knew, we are just as willing and capable of being violent, aggressive, sadistic, controlling and a plethora of similarly related "attributes" that may relate to what many think of as ideal in the "sexually dominant female" realm.
The worst thing someone can do is to just sit at home and run endless ads, answer the few replies they get, and be in competition with about 47 billion other submissive guys. Right down the street, right outside your door, at the market, the gym, walking her dogs, the single mother next door, everywhere are women that have sexual urges and desires that...while they may not match yours exactly, and nor should they, are still open minded and may be even more than you can imagine if you just give them a chance.
View it as something akin to prostitution (Oh yea...I "went there") where single horny women are sitting at home, and guys are at the strip club or picking up hookers, paying for Pro-Dommes, sex chat, or cyber-web-cam-virtual-reality-some-sort-of-app-whatever-the-stupid-fuck.....it makes no sense. :)
Get your asses off the chair and out the door and stop obsessing over "FemDom" imagery and outlandish sex stories that are not based on reality.... and live your lives.
Or not, what the hell do I care....I just want some decent Tacos, lol. :)
