Just musing here, as I see more and more of an interest in men that have a desire to be dominated and/or cuckolded. People often discuss where this interest originated, and why.
I would speculate there is no one size fits all answer. Everyone on the planet has things that excite us. If someone were asked why they like big tits, or guys with a strong jawline and blues eyes, or spanking, or being with furries, the'd have no real answer as to the "why". They could expound at length on different aspects of "how" it turns them on, from the subtle to the specific, but the "why" is...it just does, it is, what it is. It just exists within some people.
I suppose a "shrink" might try to talk about, or attribute it to...parental abandonment, or Oedipus complex, maybe the Madonna/Whore complex, or being breast fed, or not being breast fed, being the oldest sibling, or a middle sibling, or an only child, or perhaps not going to Disneyland, or being afraid of the dark, and on and on and on.
People could debate nature versus nurture, or media influence, and a myriad of other things, but they would just be speculating, guessing, and left wondering. In reality, we are simply a curious species. We like to watch other people do "stuff". From singing opera, to sports, to cooking shows, renovating homes, walking, playing, laughing, and of course having sex. Submission, in human beings, or in this case in males, is as complex as...everything I've just mentioned. For some things, there are no simple answers, and in some cases, there are *no* answers. And maybe my musing is a waste of time, and maybe I should find another hobby. :)
That was the longest most eloquent " I haven't the foggiest clue " I might have ever read. :) haha I loved it and you are spot on. I have been and known I was a sub to females, straight male that was turned on when cuckolded and humiliated guy since before puberty. In almost 52 years of pondering the WHY? I still have no idea. The only thing that does come to mind is Society is becoming more open minded, the internet opens windows so we can see we are not alone.
ReplyDeleteSocial acceptance is happening for those who dwell in the "Alternate Sexual" realm amongst some people, yet others seem to be regressing. I'd try to figure out the "why" of the latter, but it might hurt my brain. Anyway, glad you enjoyed my little..."babblement". :)
Deletei can definatly speak to how being cuckolded makes me feel. some of those feelings you are correct the why is it just does.
ReplyDeleteone aspect with logic behind it however that does have am explanation is loved.
she is with others for the various submissive humiliation pleasure for her i am inadequate etc reasons that live up to the fantasy and reality. after however she comes home to me. pathetic inadequate panty wearing me. how special am i to this lady that she comes home to me? so special. so loved. i feel so loved knowing her choice is me.
Your last line...was perfectly expressed. And its a mutual thought/emotion on my part for the...inadequate cuckold him. :)
DeleteBecause we couldn't be any other way....
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I was asking "men".
Delete(Pretty much closest thing ever to literally ROFLMO...for real, at my own joke.) :)
There are many kinks discussed on the internet which i don't get. This is one. I do like it when I know other men find my wife attractive, but that is it.
ReplyDeleteI am a submissive man who love to be punished and lectured for being naughty, sassy, disrespectful etc., but never pathetic, worthless. And I have no interest in any insinuation that my penis is inadequate.
But I have many kinks of my own that may people wouldn't understand.
-Rosco
To each her own. Or his own. Or their own. Or our own. :)
DeleteI’ve never been cucked..but it’s an experience I would love to have.
ReplyDeleteTo see someone who I am strongly attracted to (and want to fuck) get fucked and satisfied by someone else just for the physical fulfillment of it is a huge turn on. Often this takes the form of a “cock size” issue..but it could be for many other reasons.
Perhaps the cuckoldress just wants variety or wants to drive the cuck mad with desire..maybe his cock is too big (could happen!) and she wants something more fitting.
As to why this is happening more..I really think internet and social media are the reason. This activity has been done since forever and used to be a secret, shameful, suppressed desire. Now more and more people see that it is a widespread desire and their feelings aren’t so weird afterall...much the same as other popular fetshes that get validated online in various groups or...blogs ; )
~ nightowl
The Internet and social media aspect brings to mind...Does art imitate life, or does Life imitate art? :)
DeleteI have no doubt never making it to Disneyland is what did it for me.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for "opening" that wound... :)
DeleteHey Miss Vanessa.... I have no idea why I like the idea of a cuckold relationship, I just simply want the woman I'm with to be as happy as possible. If she wants more than I can provide sexually and wants to explore other things, with other men or women, than Im all for it.
ReplyDeleteOh, and its a huge, huge, turn on, watching a lady get pleasured in a way I can't provide. Watching and hearing her in the throes of ecstasy is incredibly hot. We both know that I'm not well equipped in D department and if she wants/needs more than I can give, I'll gladly help her select a guy that can.
For me, I simply need to be part of the process. Throw in a little humiliation, etc....Mmmmm, yes please.. . 😉
I hope you're doing well there Litle-Jim. :)
DeleteI think the rise in the amount of men desiring to be dominated or cuckolded would an interesting research topic. The interest from researchers might be sparked if the trends on cuckolding continues to grow over the years.
ReplyDeleteIf I had to risk myself with an explanation of why this occurs, I would guess that the increasing openness of society and the emancipation of women are the main factors behind this growth. It is obvious that men from 1905 would not have been as willing to talk about these kind of fantasies as the men of today. So the destigmatization of these topics may influence the trends. But there is also the fact that, as society becomes more equal, women are increasingly exposed as being better adapted to this age of communication than men are. Women are better organized, have a higher college graduation rate and are on track to becoming the primary breadwinners on average. In the most equal countries, girls even outperform boys in maths and science in school. So I think there is a clear power shift happening. It is possible that this drives men to be more submissive towards the other sex. After all, we are generally more inclined to be submissive to people that we consider to be above us.
I personaly am not into cuckolding yet, but I am fascinated by the female orgasm and female centric oral sex. I would do anything for a women that I am attracted to, if it meant I could orally pleasure her and get a mouthful of her cum every now and then.
I'd love to see some responsibly conducted research on this topic as well. I think the challenge would be finding honest and accurate information. Trying to separate reality from overactive imaginations could be difficult. The few efforts I've seen, and a couple that I've been a part of, left quite a bit to be desired. Still, perhaps one day soon. :)
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