Tuesday, October 17, 2017

The Origins of Sexual Female Domination?

The origins of sexual female domination? This may be a long post so, for those that aren't into hearing my rambling babbling...save yourselves and leave now, lol. 

I am contemplating writing a second fictional novel. With the exception of one, all my other books are real and true and just part of my life so doing those are easy. Personally I think I suck as a writer but my husband is out of town again quite a bit this month so...need something to do to ward of the boredom. My point by mentioning the above is a bit of personal introspection. While writing this and delving into the character, certain...things...become apparent about ones formative years and development, that prompts one to write more dirty, kinky, nasty, Female Domination books, lol. 

So, hypothetical question, lets say I have this "friend" who was raised by a....not very nice father. He did....not very nice things, and as you are all the brightest people on the planet :)....you can figure out the rest. Lets also say this "friend" also was very skinny and scrawny and didn't fit in well with others. Sort of a social misfit, a bit odd, unique, didn't blend in well with the other girls and was tormented by the boys. Tormented by comments over body issues, having not tits, late bloomer, all the usual things that teens may do to bully others.

Lets also say this "friend"...well her first dates didn't go so well. When she finally did eventually develop hips, tits and ass...and all those same asshole bully guys from school suddenly now want to date her, jump her bones, get busy, she enjoyed teasing them, allowing a bit of foreplay, just enough to get their dicks hard...then denying their further advances and leaving them high and dry with blue balls.

Lets say this "friend" eventually realized that doing so sexually excited her in some bizarre way. After some of these dates she'd go home and masturbate or make full use of the shower head with adjustable jets. So, many people "play" around with S/M and B/D and all the other monikers and titles for kink, fetish and so on. Some are hardcore, some are "weekend warriors" about it, and everything in-between, which is fine of course. Different levels of interest and some switch, for some its just a bit of kinky role-play and all that. 

If my "friend" however, had some...animosity towards her father, deep seated, intense, and she has lingering bad memoires of being harassed, taunted, teased and bullied by teenage boys, does her desire to dominate, spank, beat on, tease and deny, cuckold, humiliate....do those urges stem from all that which is mentioned above? Is that good? Bad? If the impetus of her desires to sexually dominate a male stems from this, does that make it more real...because I think it does.  :)

10 comments:

  1. Vanessa, I think you can safely tell your “friend” that her early experience with deplorable male role models did not MAKE her a femdom. It probably helped her to embrace her natural sexual desires more easily. I don’t think any domme, sub or switch could ever tell anyone, even themselves, honestly why they are what they are. Besides none of those are a bad thing to be unless we ourselves consider them bad.
    To answer your “friends” question about making her experience more real . Ask her to think about her experiences dominating someone she loves. Are those experiences less real than with someone she can transfer her anger towards. I think she will probably say “what anger! I do this because I love to and I love and care about all my subs!
    That stuff is all on a personal level. Fiction and fantasy are completely different. In her writing tell her to despise the pathetic excuses for humanity to her hearts content. Humiliation and severe beating is all we males are good for! Especially if it’s cathartic for her!!
    Tom

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    1. @Tom...Well then, let the "Sexual Domestic Violence" commence, lol. :)

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  2. Thank you for sharing a very interesting topic.

    I think that arrays of experiences generate our ever-evolving perceptions. Many times it are the pivotal experiences that give us awareness of patterns and trends and often galvanize our opinions upon them and integrate into our belief structures. Once established, the perception of the world flows through and is colored by those belief structures.

    I would not blame your "friend" for developing the stance that the male creature is naturally hurtful and full of impure motivations. Over time, your "friend" learned the simplicity of male behavior and found it empowering to manipulate them as she saw fit. Your "friend" may have found them deserving both of being used in such a way and toyed with and ultimately grew to enjoy the empowered feelings and confidence at her ability to make them dance as she pulled their strings.

    It wouldn't surprise me at all if your "friend" eventually found this somewhat intoxicating and continued to explore ways to push the feeling further than further in pursuit of her own pleasure. However, as time went on, it also wouldn't surprise me if your "friend" encountered a handful of males that did not behave in the ways that she had come to expect. I wouldn't doubt that she may have chosen a life partner from among them.

    Your "friend" sounds like a pretty wonderful person that found an amazing way to cope with some very ugly experiences that may have decimated those with less fortitude.

    Take care :)

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    1. Thank you for the very insightful reply. Its greatly appreciated. :)

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    2. Thank you. I hope that what I envisioned for your "friend," were not too far from the truth. I ran out of time while writing my other reply and had to rush its ending.

      If the character in your story shared a similar path to your "friend," I would view her as a heroine and cheer for her happiness and success. I would consider her path to be very real and believable.

      I have a "friend" that had a similar path to sexual submission. An abusive and distant father and despicable male peers caused him to lose trust of men and see most of them as monsters. Females were also cruel to this "friend" in their own way except for this special girl that took interested in my "friend" and she took great pleasure in tying him up and keeping him imprisoned. This "friend," through her kindness, learned to see women as a beautiful authority figure and felt peaceful when under their power.

      Through my "friend," I have come to take great interest in the process of how people become what they are. It can make for a good story :)

      Take care.

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  3. Maybe my "friend" should get together with your "friend" and the two can get..."friendly". :)

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    1. Sounds scary... but in a good way :)

      I will pass it on to my "friend."

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  4. Vanessa, Please understand that I was not down playing anything that your “friend” went through. No one should ever be let down and taken advantage of like that by anyone! Especially someone who is supposed to be caring for them. As Fur Sissy stated she must have incredible character and courage to have overcome that life!
    Tom

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    1. Tom, I already knew that...but thanks for mentioning it. :)

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  5. Perhaps off theme but while it is sad to think of those early experiences it ssems a path of strength for her to realize and express the power of women. As a feminized male i bow the rightful supermacy of women. For me her desire to dominate, spank, beat on, tease and deny, cuckold, humiliate males is fully rising to a preferred natural order. i know that is what i need, want, and hope to deserve. But also i think there needs to tenderness of heart to the males she dominates for it to be both real and caring.

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