Friday, January 27, 2017
Holocaust Memorial Day. Noted for history: A Trump administration executive order banned refugees from entering the United States on Holocaust Remembrance Day.
Because not all blog posts are fun or sexy or filled with gaiety, jocularity and laughter...
Thursday, January 26, 2017
The Value of Women?
The reason so many guys do what they do is because we let them. Contemplate for a moment that throughout history, and until very, very recently, the "value" of a woman was mostly determined by her desirability to men. If men stop looking, catcalling, grabbing, groping, trying to get inside our pants....it must mean we're ugly and in some bizarre alternate Universe, we're therefore "useless".
So you have eons of guys that did what they pleased, and we had no choice but to tolerate it. Even the feminists of the 60s, the ERA, bra burning Birkenstock wearing marchers of that time, they tolerated (and in some cases still do) far more of the '"sameoldthing". So, its really only the last maybe 20 years or so that some of that "could" have changed, but along came the Internet, Cable TV in a huge scale, Netflix YouTube etc.
Suddenly, there was a whole new way to feel like a useless woman because obviously most of what we see in the various media forms are the most attractive people on the planet. So, you compare yourself to other women, the competition is huge, your spirits are challenged in thinking that the only way to do well in that regard, is to be "popular". And especially popular with the guys.
So, if ChickieA won't put out at the drop of a hat....ChickieB certainly will. The guys know this, so they jump from one to another and won't spend more than 5 minutes often, because they next woman might.
And part of it is the still expanding "liberation" of female sexuality. Less double standards to some extent, less social stigma, certainly a level of wealth and having an easy life means.....they all want to be the next Paris Hilton, Kardashian, rap star, booty dancing twerking chick....part of which is being popular online and having a social media presence, which ties into being popular with the guys, which means you have to put out or you're not part of the "in crowd" and we are right back to.....your value as a woman just went down.
So you have eons of guys that did what they pleased, and we had no choice but to tolerate it. Even the feminists of the 60s, the ERA, bra burning Birkenstock wearing marchers of that time, they tolerated (and in some cases still do) far more of the '"sameoldthing". So, its really only the last maybe 20 years or so that some of that "could" have changed, but along came the Internet, Cable TV in a huge scale, Netflix YouTube etc.
Suddenly, there was a whole new way to feel like a useless woman because obviously most of what we see in the various media forms are the most attractive people on the planet. So, you compare yourself to other women, the competition is huge, your spirits are challenged in thinking that the only way to do well in that regard, is to be "popular". And especially popular with the guys.
So, if ChickieA won't put out at the drop of a hat....ChickieB certainly will. The guys know this, so they jump from one to another and won't spend more than 5 minutes often, because they next woman might.
And part of it is the still expanding "liberation" of female sexuality. Less double standards to some extent, less social stigma, certainly a level of wealth and having an easy life means.....they all want to be the next Paris Hilton, Kardashian, rap star, booty dancing twerking chick....part of which is being popular online and having a social media presence, which ties into being popular with the guys, which means you have to put out or you're not part of the "in crowd" and we are right back to.....your value as a woman just went down.
When the Queening chair is hijacked by the "Kinging" submissive.
I have touched briefly before on the whole "topping from the bottom" issue and I would just like to clarify my opinion on the topic. Some people get caught up on this and the implication is that anything the "sub" suggests is an attempt at topping. I see it differently.
If submissive B suggests to Domme A that by using the futon cushion, with the bean bag below, and the larger throw pillows under her bottom he will thereby have better access to her (whatever she wants attention paid to) and at the same time she will not have to support her body weight on her "feet-hands-elbows-knees-etc" then the purpose of his suggestion is to benefit them both in their mutual pleasure. Its not an attempt to switch roles, or his trying to become the boss, exert power, or to "objectify" her (or him if its a male Dom) in some fashion.
On that note, I have always felt that good sex involves at least *some* objectification, some domestic violence (not in the bad way as you all fully know) some slapping, biting, and some sort of humiliation. I mean seriously, Hollywood has long depicted "sex" as some sort of "1950s, Ward and June Cleaver, romantic kissing, soft music, dainty, sanitized type of act when in reality it usually seems to be "Harder, Harder, fuck me harder, spank this, twist that, suck it and swallow it" escapade.
To that end, if it appears that if a sub/slave is trying to "reverse roles" that does not mean they have some secret agenda to overthrow the Dommes rule. In my mind this is supposed to be fun. If someone has a good idea, or a better idea, or has more experience, or a bigger-faster-better toy, a new twist, a revised edition, a newly discovered position, and if it makes both people happier and satisfied, then it matters not one whit who suggested the idea.
The only case where this could be a major point of contention is if "Domme" wants/enjoys candle wax, golden showers and enemas, and "sub" enjoys St. Andrews Cross, single tail floggers, and has a foot fetish. In that regard they have probably no business being together or "playing" with each other and it doesn't matter who is the top or bottom, Domme or Sub, no one is going to be happy.
All of this kink and fetish that we do should be to make peoples lives happier, more exciting, and a mutually beneficial activity. Suggestions and ideas should be freely exchanged. At least in my opinion, though I could be wrong. :)
If submissive B suggests to Domme A that by using the futon cushion, with the bean bag below, and the larger throw pillows under her bottom he will thereby have better access to her (whatever she wants attention paid to) and at the same time she will not have to support her body weight on her "feet-hands-elbows-knees-etc" then the purpose of his suggestion is to benefit them both in their mutual pleasure. Its not an attempt to switch roles, or his trying to become the boss, exert power, or to "objectify" her (or him if its a male Dom) in some fashion.
On that note, I have always felt that good sex involves at least *some* objectification, some domestic violence (not in the bad way as you all fully know) some slapping, biting, and some sort of humiliation. I mean seriously, Hollywood has long depicted "sex" as some sort of "1950s, Ward and June Cleaver, romantic kissing, soft music, dainty, sanitized type of act when in reality it usually seems to be "Harder, Harder, fuck me harder, spank this, twist that, suck it and swallow it" escapade.
To that end, if it appears that if a sub/slave is trying to "reverse roles" that does not mean they have some secret agenda to overthrow the Dommes rule. In my mind this is supposed to be fun. If someone has a good idea, or a better idea, or has more experience, or a bigger-faster-better toy, a new twist, a revised edition, a newly discovered position, and if it makes both people happier and satisfied, then it matters not one whit who suggested the idea.
The only case where this could be a major point of contention is if "Domme" wants/enjoys candle wax, golden showers and enemas, and "sub" enjoys St. Andrews Cross, single tail floggers, and has a foot fetish. In that regard they have probably no business being together or "playing" with each other and it doesn't matter who is the top or bottom, Domme or Sub, no one is going to be happy.
All of this kink and fetish that we do should be to make peoples lives happier, more exciting, and a mutually beneficial activity. Suggestions and ideas should be freely exchanged. At least in my opinion, though I could be wrong. :)
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