How to Engage Dominant Women.

{Answering a question from a reader, name withheld by request.}


*******, you asked a very good question. I will try to make a few suggestions. First off though everyone needs to understand that every dominant woman has her own "ideal" version of a submissive male. Of course a submissive male also has his notions of an "ideal" woman so he must try to appeal to and avail himself of that specific type of woman. Some dominant women kind of prefer to "break and train" an otherwise "normal" man into their submissive partner. Others may prefer one who is already trained, or very malleable with a minimum of fuss and effort. Knowing what and how you are would help to decide what type of dominant woman to approach. For example, for a Domme who likes a challenge, if the sub is a wimp and has the spine (as relates to dominant women alone) of a limp dish rag then you will not appeal to her or her desires. 

Having said the above I will make a few suggestions that would appeal to myself and women that are my type, of sorts. If you are at a cocktail party, an office party, a gallery opening, etc and if you find a place to interject into a conversation that pertains to women's standings in politics, the church, the imbalance in pay scales, the "glass ceiling" etc your opinion that "the world would be better if _____". If women were able to be priests, if women had a better opportunity of running more of corporate America, the need for more women in higher offices of politics and so forth it will appeal to and catch the ears and eyes of all women in general, and the more dominant women in specific. 


Of course you must really believe this and mean it. A fraud or someone insincere using the above as a pick up line will quickly be revealed by other conflicting statements, demeanor and attitude. Public or initial private conversations where deference is shown to women in a non "pussy whipped" way is a good start. Where it is applicable in the right context in a conversation or a passing comment you may point out you like strong women, are a fully domesticated male, can appreciate a woman who knows what she wants and goes after it. If its a more personal conversation or a light hearted one in public casual references to women who wear the pants in the family, how she runs her household, the awe you have for powerful women, strong women throughout history or anything similar can help.

My point of all the above is we want a guy who is intelligent and genuine. One who is strong and also compassionate about others, life, causes, our planet, animals, sick people and babies. There are so many ways to present yourself as a man who will take a stand and fight for what is right, but who will not fight against our innermost kinky desires and passions. Opening doors, chivalry, the older customs of how to treat a "lady" are all nice gestures (and should be extended to everyone out of kindness for humanity in general) but also appeal to her mind. Don't be afraid to break the mold of the usual pick up lines, don't come across like some wimp with no opinion, no stance on anything other than a desire to get dominated as that's just creepy. We have intricate and complicated minds, capture our intellectual interest. Think along the lines of how we may get aroused by a long story of role reversal, a submissive male, the progression of how she may thrill at slowly bringing him into her web of desire and delightful perverted pleasures, and a guy will get the same effect by looking at a simple photo depicting the above scenario. Don't be simple, don't be overtly and intentionally complex, just be real.