People are *Still* Pissing me Off. :)

  Okay, just for the sake of clarification, I am not "actually" pissed off, not in this post nor the previous one. I'm in a great mood. The blog titles I select are...just to amuse me.  :) 

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So, here's the thing...identity wise, how you identify, how that affects your life, that journey, those challenges, all the baggage, guilt, soul searching and hassles that can go with it for some people, it's of massive importance to the person that is undergoing it. However, it's of massive importance...to you, but not necessarily to me, or anyone else.

 In this post-Oprah, expose your soul, tell your story, Instagram, share your...everything, every detail of your life era, I get it, but don't always agree with it. Yes, I have a blog and books, some BDSM products that I've created, so some people could view my above statement as a conflict, or even hypocrisy...but I would point out a major difference. I am promoting ideas, thoughts, experiences, knowledge and opinions, not promoting myself. What I mean is, I'm not seeking fame nor popularity. There are almost no photos of my face "out there" and the few that are, are mostly with me wearing a mask (or wigs, shades, etc). I can walk down any street, and no one knows who I am. And I am going to keep it that way. 

So, people that are doing an "identity realignment"...more power to you. It's a revelation and transformative event...for you. However, I'm just wanting to buy some gasoline, get my groceries bagged, or whatever. I don't want nor need to know whether you are gay, trans, Muslim, male, female, Episcopalian, on vacation, on drugs, losing or gaining weight...I'm just trying to pay my fucking electric bill. I want to be able to read the news, go out for coffee and not be inundated with the latest tell all, exposé, graphic detailed, photos included of...whatever is going on in your life. I'm happy for you, but I have my own life. People that want to read stuff I write about in my books or on this blog....seek it out, they are not having it forced upon them everywhere they go. If I want to read about it, I will seek it out myself...I don't want it forced on me in the oil change center or the gym. Big difference.

 And the same applies to privacy. My husband was making a doctors appointment the other day, so we were having a sort of Zoom type interview with their staff and the lady (nice lady, just doing her job) started asking my husband if he was gay or straight, how he "identified" gender wise and...I interjected and told her point blank that was none of her or the doctors office business. I mean it simply is not. At all. I know in this era where every website, business, store, shop, and social media site wants to gather and store information about you, for marketing or statistics or demographics or whatever...fuck you, I'm not doing that. My private business is just that, it's my business...and no one elses. Period. 

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An example of "self identifying" run amok. The story below reminds me of Rachel Dolezal. To refresh your memory, good old "Rach" decided one day she was "black", starting darkening her skin, recreated her entire childhood and upbringing and ended up running an NAACP chapter, until her family outed her as being some white chick. 

Apparently the lady profiled below did the same thing. I don't get it. I don't get the mental disorder that makes someone decide they want to "identify" as another race. There are limits to the whole "self identifying" thing. We can't just have people self identifying as a frog, a dog, a clog, or Detroit. I mean seriously, what happens when someone wants to self identify as a city, a coffee table, a jet ski or a solar constellation? Fucking nutcases.  :) 

Diversity activist who claimed to be Latino, Arab, South Asian outed as white by her mother. 

 

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Most young men are single. Most young women are not.

Booty Calls are Down!!!! 

What I gleaned from the above "article" is...more and more men that write these sorts of articles are simps. And I don't trust nor like simps.

'Simp' is slang for a person (typically a man) who is desperate for the attention and affection of someone else (typically a woman). 

 The guy below, stating that "men don't have more to give". According to who or based on what criteria? Give what? Maybe they have more to give, but are keeping it in reserve. Maybe they don't find the women they see in the dating pool as being worthy of offering up that "giving gift". All the recent hoopla about "Incels", has it occurred to anyone (besides me obviously) that maybe these guys have such high standards, sane or not, rational or not, that most women can't meet them? Sure, perhaps his "standard" is based on some porn chick, melded with a Super Heroine Marvel Comic Book Movie character, and a sexy Anime woman (or whatever) thrown in. This compilation being the ideal women of his fantasy, unrealistic as it is...how is that different from 50 Shades of Gray guy mixed with Prince Charming and some romance novel and Rom-Com studly dude that women are lusting over and hoping to meet and marry? I mean, why are they picking on men and ignoring the fact that women do the same thing? Maybe in his mind, his attitude is..."basic bitches" don't need to apply. Granted, he's in love/lust with a fictional "woman"...but so are far too many women waiting and wanting to be swept off their feet by some fictional "man". 

Women are tiring of their stereotypical role as full-time therapist for emotionally distant men. They want a partner who is emotionally open and empathetic, the opposite of the age-old masculine ideal.  “Today in America, women expect more from men,” Levant said, “and unfortunately, so many men don’t have more to give.”

As of 2022, Pew Research Center found, 30 percent of U.S. adults are neither married, living with a partner nor engaged in a committed relationship. Nearly half of all young adults are single: 34 percent of women, and a whopping 63 percent of men.  Not surprisingly, the decline in relationships marches astride with a decline in sex. The share of sexually active Americans stands at a 30-year low. Around 30 percent of young men reported in 2019 that they had no sex in the past year, compared to about 20 percent of young women.  Only half of single men are actively seeking relationships or even casual dates, according to Pew. That figure is declining. “You have to think that the pandemic had an impact on some of those numbers,” said Fred Rabinowitz, a psychologist and professor at the University of Redlands who studies masculinity. Young men “are watching a lot of social media, they’re watching a lot of porn, and I think they’re getting a lot of their needs met without having to go out. And I think that’s starting to be a habit.

Maybe the world has just changed and the norms of conventional dating, marriage, kids and all that are a thing of the past. Maybe it will never be the same. Who knows...but I know that it seems like every article I see on this topic are people slamming men, about how they're not needed, and then the next article is women bemoaning how they can't find any decent guys to date. Which one is it? If you're convincing men they're scum, not desired nor needed, but then whining about a lack of "datable" men, after just stomping all over them...does anyone else see the stupidity in this?  

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The Cock-Shaming Stupidity of Toxic Masculinity. 

Moving right along (lol) this article sort of goes with the two above. Another article where the author...just seems confused. Slamming men for being "cock toxic" in the title, but praising them for being loving, while mocking how the media portrays men and women, but then attributing everything negative to...So much of how we think about interactions between men and women are rooted in white supremacy, patriarchal religious dogma, and western capitalism....men, meaning white men, race, and capitalism, (Capitalism? How the fuck does that factor into this?) and written by someone who renamed herself  "Feminista Jones" (real name Michelle Taylor)...what in the actual fuck? 

Side note, I am beyond tired of the term "POC", meaning "People Of Color". News flash *all* human beings have "color". We all have melanin...just different amounts. I believe most Albinos have melanin, be it very small amounts. Human beings are not invisible. We all have color. 

I don't get it. Black people were called "colored people" for decades or a century, took offense to it, now want to be called "people of color". Colored people...people of color...what's the fucking difference beyond the arrangement of the words? And BIPOC? Black, Indigenous, and People of Color. What the hell is that? Do black people in Africa, born in Africa, indigenous black people of Africa call themselves "Black, Indigenous, and People of Color" or do they just call themselves...you know...Africans?

And the SWERFs?

 An acronym standing for Sex Worker-Exclusionary Radical Feminist.

And the TERFs?

 An acronym for trans-exclusionary radical feminist.

 People...this PC nonsense...it's just so stupid and childish. I am now going to "self identify" as the following...a Pissed Off Intelligent Human Being Opposed to Political Correctness. Or in other words, acronym wise a POIHBOTPC, lol. Alright, fuck me...I'm done.  :) 

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Said it before, saying it again. One of the reasons I hate filming video for public consumption is...I want to enjoy myself and not have to worry about camera angles, lighting, editing, etc. So, this is obvious from my little home movie below, compliments of my lovely...$25 webcam.   :) 

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Oops, nearly forgot...for those who complained about my last post not having a "sans pants" ass shot...here you go, lol.  :)