Sex Positivity....Now with Less...or No Pants. :)

I don't understand why some people are rather "negative" about sex. We're born nude, we were designed so in our middle teen years we might begin copulating and fornicating for the purposes of reproduction and of course that will involve pleasure (unless you're a submissive, then it might just involve pain...giggles to self).

So we have political pressure, a sex-negative feminist agenda (some are), aspects of religious oppression and guilt, social mores, societal conventions, blah, blah, blah. That's fine. For those that subscribe to the aforementioned...do what you want to do, and let us do what we *want* to do. 

Sex eases stress. Being close to your partner can soothe stress and anxiety. Ambardar says touching and hugging can release your body's natural “feel-good hormone.” Sexual arousal releases a brain chemical that revs up your brain's pleasure and reward system. 

Sex is a natural pain reliever: Sex causes increased production of oxytocin, which is often referred to as the “love hormone”. Before orgasm, oxytocin, released from the brain, surges and is accompanied by the release of endorphins, our natural pain-killing hormones. 

Sex also can, could, might or will: 

Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming.

Boosts Your Libido. 

Be Pain Relief, Even From Menstrual Cramps.

Improves Women's Bladder Control. 

Lowers Your Blood Pressure. 

Counts as Exercise. 

Burns Calories.

Lowers Heart Attack Risk.

Lessens Pain.

Create a Happier Mood and a Stronger Relationship.

May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely.

Give You Glowing, Younger-Looking Skin

Impove Sleep. You know....8 Hours of Peace...Through Sexual Release. 

It can improve virtually every aspect of live and be hugely positive to our physical and mental health. Plus, as a horny hedonist...I just simply love it! I'll be damned-to-tarnation if I'll ever allow others make me feel guilty about enjoying pleasure. No real point to this post other than I was thinking along these lines....so I wrote about them.   :) 

  

While you were sleeping, fondling yourself, dreaming about a wet fragrant pussy on your face...

 I made this.  :) 

RanDumb Meeems....

That...is one big, big boy. At least I'm assuming its a boy. 

It would be rude anyway, if I said "Big, Big, Girl". 

Might hurt her feelings. BBWBB? 

Big Beautiful Woman Brown Bear? :) 

Somebody needs a bath.  :)

 

Real Gabinete Português de Leitura. 

Actually...do it twice.  :)

 

I Mastered....Baiting.  :)

Cuckoldry and Humiliation: Readers Question Answered...

{In the comment section of my blog a reader posted the following question, I'm answering it here. And on a personal note, to the gentleman that wrote this, thank you for purchasing, appreciating and mentioning my books. That patronage keeps me off the streets, and able to buy Tacos. :) } 

{{{{AnonymousAugust 28, 2018 at 9:50 PM

I’ve read several or most of Vanessa’a must-read books several times. I can't get through several pages before I’m rock hard. Continue reading and not what I wanted but forced to orgasm. Her writing IMO is so fucking realistic. Today I was rereading “FemDom Evolution; I Became Sexually Dominant For Tongue.” 

What’s causing anxiety is that you mention and mock with your girlfriend her partner's small cock. And, all women talk about cock sizes. So between my premature ejaculation and less than 5-inch cock they must have discussed mainly in the early 20s. So watching today, your video “Tease and Denial - Ball Busting - Humiliation Video.” WTF, your “cocky” has a big thick cock with a muscular body. Why and do you still search for a stronger man bigger cock to fuck?

Thanks for the excellent well-written book!! People can criticize the work, but it never fails as the best read to get me motivated.}}}}

One thing about cuckolding that seems to be missed by those that get most of that related "education" from online sites, porn sites etc. and I am *not* implying the reader that asked is one of those is....:)

Yes, penis size is one factor. Not only length, but girth, and in many cases girth is more important than length. But in many cases, it can also be about stamina or lasting power or bluntly put, not ejaculating within the first few strokes upon entry into a nice wet and warm pussy. In the case of my cuckold, he's a "Minute Man" at best, often lasting less than say....20 seconds or so. Of course its not really fair to him, as I taunt and tease him, tease and deny, ball-bust, face-sit, tease some more, repeat the cycle... until he's got blue balls and is leaking pre-cum out of the end of his dick, so of course he ejaculates quickly when I allow him inside me....which is rare....very rare, actually. 

And the above ties directly into another aspect which is...I'm a sexual sadist. I get off on mocking and humiliating him. I enjoy his distress, his sexual anxiety, his angst, his begging, his willing to do whatever I ask or demand, his blue balls hurting, his aching for entry and release...so making it worse, making him suffer in that way...is a thrill for me. 

And yes, he is rather large, in all ways. As I've written about several times, finding a lover who is as tall, or taller, as built, or better built, with a dick as big, or bigger is no easy task. When I first met him several years ago, he was (obviously) younger, more muscular, ripped, shredded, jacked, striations, vascular and all that one would expect from someone with good genetics, plus decades of martial arts, exercise, lifting weights and so on. 

This, his being how he is, has actually created complications a few times as other guys, lovers, bulls, are intimidated by him. I wrote once about a guy with a huge 9 inch dick that came over to fuck me, he knew the deal, I'd laid everything out in numerous e-mails while I was vetting him, he knew I wanted my cuckold to watch me get fucked properly by a superior dick, but once he started fucking me, his dick went limp. What happened was he noticed my husband watching from a dressing area, right off the bathroom, where there are several mirrors. I realized later, after I sent the failed "bull" home , that seeing a large muscular man watching, where the offset mirrors might have made it look like two guys, or three guys, just freaked him out. More than once I had lovers or potential lovers be *very* concerned about jealously, a jealous rage coming from my cuckold husband.

But the last thing is, for some people, it could also be the husband is impotent due to age, a health issue, medication or whatever. So, there are a myriad of reasons why a wife might cuckold her husband in the manner I do (meaning FemDom style and not so much the tamer version more akin to swinging or threesomes), everything from health reasons, to size issues. or in some cases, just a very horny slutty Hotwife who loves sex and enjoys it even more with a side order of, sexual sadism. 

Meaning...me.  :)

HBO QUIETLY SAYS GOODBYE TO ADULT ENTERTAINMENT.

Erotic programming is out at HBO.

To which I, being a Luddite and a "Hermitatrix" would say...what the fuck is HBO?  :) 

A Sex Doll Brothel is opening in Toronto.

North America's first sex doll brothel will open in Toronto, offering sexual services with six silicone dolls. According to the website, the company wants to bring a new way to achieve sexual needs "without the restrictions & limitations" that a real partner may come with.

Anna is advertised on the Aura Dolls website as "busty, romantic and spontaneous." 

 

How can a doll be....spontaneous?  :) 

Cuckold - Sissy - Fluffer ...

Yea, you know who you are. Revel in the fact that you are a sexually inferior half-man, finding joy in being an oral submissive, tasked with satisfying the dominant women and men in your life.  :) 

Corporal Punishment - Spanking - Caning - Paddling - OTK - Hairbrush Spanking.

John McCain.

 

Not to worry...its just a colorful dildo orchard...in a wind storm. :)

Uberrime Hand Made Dildos. 

 

Art...

 

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I just love this room.  :) 

Today is Womens Equality Day.

Today is Womens Equality Day, a day celebrating the ratification of the 19th Amendment which give women the right to vote. The 19th Amendment was adopted in 1920, giving white women the right to vote. It wasn't until the Voting Rights Act of 1965 that women of color were guaranteed suffrage. Most history books are lacking the explanation that this amendment really only applied to affluent white women. It took nearly 200 years for all U.S. women to get the right to vote. 

John McCain...

When Rabid Exploitative BDSM Historians of Ill Repute....Attack. :)

No means no. 

As far as sexual advances.

As far as rape.

And as far as trying to pressure me into "outing" someone that enjoys their discrete life. 

Some "BDSM Historian" contacted me with long worded messages through one of the places I sell products. This is known as "unsolicited messages" or spam.

She wanted to know about a Dominant Female who interviewed me some time back for her blog. I tend to get quite a few of these sorts of requests, or to be interviewed for books, a few online or TV shows where the want to portray BDSM people as "freaks" (though they never say that), just for some ratings and a few moments of notoriety or to further their own agenda.

I like my privacy and I go to great lengths to protect the privacy of those people that are my customers, my book or blog readers, the people that I've met in "real life" for a drink, dinner, or..."more". I have never "outed" anyone of the aforementioned, and never would. 

Ever.

Over the years I've "met/known/interacted with" plumbers and college kids, doctors, lawyers, a Saudi prince, a guy who is a regular commentator on Fox News, the lady down the block, young, old, rich, poor, all colors and sexual persuasions, genders, and people of all origins and backgrounds from all around the world. 

People have their sex life, which may include aspects of a fetish life, and they have their "everyday life" that involves their family, kids, their job, their career, their neighbors, the kid that cuts their lawn, people from their gym, perhaps a preacher, their grandmother and on and on and no way in *hell* would I ever violate that trust and "out them" to anyone.

 Much less would I do so, to someone that exploits the fetish lives of others, with little regard for their wishes or privacy....yet calls herself "ANNE O NOMIS" (Anonymous) online...obviously to protect her *own* privacy...hypocritical double standards being painfully obvious. 

Anyway, I tried to be nice, but she's hitting me up with messages on platforms where I sell my "stuff" and then bothering me on Twitter until I finally have to go full-on bitch mode to get her to leave me alone. Which is really all my whole point was....leave me, and others, the hell alone. I don't want to be part of your agenda, and I rather doubt the Dominant Woman in question does either. Asking for personal details or contact information once is okay. When I politely decline however, and say no, that means no. When you ask again and again, and then try to tell me how I am "supposed" to answer your invasive questions, I get rather cranky....meaning full on grouchy bitch.

No means...fucking hell no, the fucking fuckitty fuck no.  :)

I think the following Tweet was the one that "changed" our "relationship", lol. 

She blocked me.  :) 

Memes...