Sunday Insomnia Blathering... :)

Apparently some people seem to think that the impetus behind BDSM is misogyny or misandry. According to them, being a misandrist or a misogynist *is* a fetish, one which requires the humiliation, degradation, beating, corporal punishment, debasement and dominance of whichever specific group. I'm always amazed at how a segment of society can be so, so, so uneducated on some topics, but then still see fit to expound on those topics in articles, on social media etc. 

Misogyny and/or misandry are not a fetish...but rather a demented view of society and the respective roles that women and men play in them, and for purposes of this rant, our "roles" in sex and BDSM. Kinky sex, the healthy sort, is not bred out of hatred. Its bred out of power, control, sex, pain, dominance, submission, endorphins, roleplay, role reversal, dopamine, lust, oxytocin, and a myriad of other chemicals, urges, desires and on on. If you look at sex in the animal kingdom, and yes we are animals, that raw, dirty, sometimes sort of violent foreplay, those animalistic carnal hedonistic acts, which are normal...that is us in our natural state. That society and religion has been trying to convince humans for a couple thousand years that "sex" should be....once a week, with the lights off, missionary position, for the purposes of procreation is erroneous and unfortunate. I simply don't understand people that lack intellectual curiosity. Even on topics that I have little interest in, something new crosses my path, I want to know at least the basics of it. I love learning. I want to know about, and understand the world around me. And when its something that *does* interest me...I suck up information like a fluffer sucking a dick in a gloryhole.   :) 

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Guys...seeking FemDoms...sheesh. When bored I sometimes peruse a few ads on Twitter, Reddit, various forums and so on, and they're mostly all the same. With all due respect, stop looking for a "Dominant Woman" first and foremost, and look for a woman who happens to be somewhat dominant, or sexually dominant. There is a massive, huge, night and day difference. With the former, there are like...76 gabillion submissive guys running essentially the same type of ads...that come across as if they're expecting a "Made-To-Order FemDom" to knock on their door. With the latter, you are seeking a *human being* first, a person, a whole person, a woman with hopes, dreams, a life, aspirations, intelligence, a heart, hobbies, a past, a future, who also...is seeking, or is open to an alternative lifestyle in that regard. I wish guys (not implying anyone specifically) would understand how rude, presumptuous and coldhearted it is to treat any "dominant" woman like an employee, a piece of meat, fantasy fulfillment for *his* desires only. If a guy treats women online, when running or responding to ads like a human being...he'd get more replies, increasing the likelihood of meeting a match. :) 

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14 Sex Toys Designed For Some Intense Clitoral Stimulation.

I guess these masturbatory devices are of crucial importance...

For anyone without a fulltime tongue slave.  :)

 

Ah yes...the Golden Shower Yard Art Bronze Statue....gotta get me one of them.  :)

 

I so much love a humorous smartass. So, whomever did the meme below, and decided to block out the dogs eyes, (as they do to protect identity) is brilliant.  :) 

 

Man up Boys!   :)

Birching, Birch Rods, Switches...

                              

I find it interesting that within the "punishment arsenal" of most people, birches (birch rods) and switches (as in freshly cut green switches) are rarely mentioned or used. I personally love them. That whippy sound cutting through the air, the unique aroma of fresh cut willow switches, the report they leave upon impact, how they bite into the flesh, those lovely welts, using a variety of them, different sizes and grouping, just...raw and so intense. 

 

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Baby Swordfish: this little one can grow over 1000 lbs.

 

76 years ago today Hitler died...and the world rejoiced.

Who would have thought that roughly 72 years later his ideology would make a comeback...through some people in the Republican party, in the United States of America.  

 

 

Two very different generations...side by side. 

  

Reddit Porn Now In The Crosshairs of An NCOSE Lawsuit. 

This good girl found and brought home a kitten.  :)

 

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People need to stop comparing themselves to others...especially online. We are all our own worst critics. We all know this is unhealthy. People that spend half the day comparing their looks and their life to a bunch of ads online or TV shows or commercials, you know, they're just setting themselves up to make comparisons, then be depressed and beat themselves down...for what purpose?

Maybe look at it like this, (cheesy as it sounds), someone bemoaning their economic situation (for example) by watching movies or TV, seeing wealthy movie stars and celebrities, comparing their house, cars, vacation, clothes etc...or the same to some fake Photoshopped Instagram influencers, could feel like they are "failing" or be jealous or whatever. Instead, they should compare their life to people who have "less" financial security, people in 3rd world countries, billions of people (literally, billions of people) and then...realize that by comparison, they are filthy rich.  

This old adage is true:  'I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet'. 

Beauty is subjective. What is desired by some in the West, is not equally desirable in the East. Women that are obsessed with their weight discount all the men that love Rubenesque women, and women that are "chubby chasers", those that like thicker guys or those with the "Dad bods", same thing. Some guys are more attracted to taller women, others prefer a "spinner". You no doubt get my point. Everyone has unique preferences. Maybe consider, if someone feels the need to compare themselves to others (which is not healthy, there is no benefit) doing so with people that are perhaps less "fortunate", geographically, genetically, intellectually, financially or whatever, and then they'll just feel lucky and grateful for the life, mind and body they have. At least that's what I do. Alright...rant over.  :)

Stuff...

FOSTA/SESTA: Three Years of Damage that “May Never be Undone”.  

“Countless websites have gone dark, moved overseas, or sanitized their user content of any material involving human sexuality,” attorney Lawrence Walters observed. “At the same time, sex work has become more dangerous, and trafficking has increased.”

Alabama House Considers ‘Utah-Style’ Porn Filtering Proposal.

Lawmakers in the Alabama legislature are considering legislation that would require mobile devices sold in the state to come with preinstalled porn filtering software. 

Perfectly round circles. The hoops, the shades, the hair. 

Pointlessly Gendered Items for Kids. 

 

Gwen Stefani gets her copy of The Police's Synchronicity signed by Sting in 1983.

I gotta be honest here...I thought it was Billy Idol at first glance.  :)

 

Fort of São João Baptista, off the west coast of Portugal.

Cosmo...has got some weird articles. 

Or, it looks like a dick and balls, jumping out of a hole.  :)

  

BDSM Furniture 

 

BDSM Furniture 

Manic Monday Morning Mundane Musings...

 

There is this erroneous notion amongst some people that only "Alpha" males can be dominant and only "Beta" males can be submissive. But beta does not equal submissive within the sexual realm just as neither does Alpha equal dominant in the same (That is one fucked up sentence...but I'm not fixing it, lol).  

Ones sexual orientation, their preferences, what yanks their crank, what turns them on is neither depicted nor influenced by their life, personality, mannerisms, occupation, education, social status, wealth or poverty etc...when they are outside the "bedroom"...so to speak. Think of it like this, there is a perception, myth, that only powerful rich businessmen go see ProDoms. You know the one, this long held and oft told story that the hugely successful and powerful 9-to-5 CEO type guy wants to relinquish control, flip the power dynamic and submit to a Domme, and all that. Nonsense. There are just as many guys that fit that stereotype that are sexually dominant in their private lives as well. And what about all the successful female CEO's that are of the kinky persuasion, dominant and/or submissive, or switch? 

Beyond that, the stereotype of a gay guy being effeminate, ergo a wimp, submissive, or a dyke lesbian being "butch" therefore she must be dominant, again myths, lies and falsehoods. Some people are one way, introvert, extrovert, dominant, submissive, other people are switches, or blended, and all those characteristics are subjective anyway. There are a myriad of things that make us "kinky", nature, nurture, who knows for sure, and what drives someone in that part of their life, that orientation, is not broken down into something so simplistic as "Alpha/Beta" as some would posit. Or not. I mean...what the hell do I know...I'm just babbling over here.  :) 

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From a Reddit group called: "ShowerThoughts"...

You can get arrested for peeing in front of other people, and then in jail you will be forced to pee, in front of other people. 

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On a forum I frequent a fellow FemDom was bemoaning how so many guys (mostly younger guys from what I gather), via social media and chat rooms, are looking for a Domme talk a good talk, then fail to follow through or to show up. Could be many reason for this. For one, we now live in a culture where people are worried (rightly so) about Covid-19, plus the economic impact of that, which has been detrimental to so many peoples finances, which in the case of young guys, being broke, some living with their parents, they view as a source of embarrassment (which they should *not*). Factor in a decade or so of Femdom memes, anime, cartoons, porn, video games and so on, and we have a whole generation of people (male and female) that have unrealistic expectations and a tenuous grasp on reality. That is not meant to disparage anyone, its just a fact.  

Add it all together and we got a gabillion young guys that talk a good game, but are scared to follow though with meeting, with commitment, with doing much other than...recessing back into their dungeon/bedrooms for more fantasy, more fiction, more dreaming, more angst, and less action. Its unfortunate, but the modern world has numerous examples of this. For several years now I've been seeing articles about the same sort of thing happening in Japan (and other countries), where a high percent of a certain demographic has just...checked out. They're fine with cartoon porn, masturbation, no desire for a real life girlfriend, no desire to get married, its having an effect on their version of social security, falling birth rates, and all kinds of other social implications and effects.  

The above makes me glad I'm not single, alone and horny, because it sounds a bit tough out there. What is bizarre, is the sheer numbers of ads I see from submissive guys, and increasing numbers of ads from dominant women, but it seems that few "matches" are made. Okay, "dominant" women are not running around town, scowling, with a whip in one hand, leather clad, vying for a sub. However, dominant women, or potentially sexually dominant women, are everywhere that anyone else goes. At the store, the gym, the park, church, work, the laundromat, the bar, out hiking, jogging...everywhere. My point is, open minded women, sexually demanding women, so called dominant women, or potentially so, are just women that would be curious about or inclined to living a unique lifestyle, or for some play a role, that bespeaks a paradigm shift from societal sexual norms.  

I've used the term "I became sexually dominant...for tongue!" many times. Graphic and blunt? Sure. To the point? Sure. Because it amuses the hell out of me? Damn straight. But beyond the salacious effect of it, the larger point is I was tired of dating men that were sexually selfish. So are most women. We get tired of guys that won't "go downtown", or that want to mansplain everything, or that are rude, lazy, boring, intellectually incurious, emotionally distant and so on. When it comes to that, if that's our only option, most of us just buy a dildo, use it, get a cup of tea and read a book. I mean, right now, next door to you, right down the street, around the corner there are single, bored, lonely and horny women, who'd love to have someone in their life, would love sex, kinky sex, some attention, some affection, some companionship. And right now, 10 billion dildos are flying over your head, in airplanes, being shipped from some sex shop warehouse to their homes. So, if guys would get to know the "woman" first, and then explore domination aspects secondly, well...most of those guys (and women) would not be single. If a guy looks for a premade, made to order, fantasy driven "FemDom" first and primarily, he's going to mostly get replies from ProDommes, bots, FinDoms and pretty much no one else, if that makes sense, and it probably does *not* because again...I'm just rambling over here...sans pants.