Wednesday, September 24, 2025

Defending Submissive Men. 😊

 

I came across a social media thread where people were slamming male subs as being "pussy's" and alluding to them being weak inferior men and all the typical assorted invective laden pejoratives, some by men, some by women. I found this confusing. 

First off...what's wrong with pussy?
Most people like it. 😁

Secondly, women are often complaining that men are unavailable emotionally, too detached, too stoic, and too reserved with thoughts, feeling and fantasies. Being sexually submissive is not a sign of "weakness". If being sexually dominant for women is "empowering", why is being sexually submissive for men viewed as being  "emasculating"? One could posit that both are outside societal norms and some would say outside gender norms. So one is good, one way is positive, but the other way is bad and negative? How can women be sexually dominant without men being sexually submissive? You sort of have to have the latter in order to have the former right? Without submissive men being submissive, who the hell would dominant women...dominate? 

You can take the physically strongest man on the planet, a powerlifter or whatever, or the top boxer or MMA fighter, some karate guy, the toughest man alive, and he could be sexually submissive. Does that mean he's "weak" or a coward, a wimp or a "pussy"? Not even close.  

It just makes me realize that the majority of people, normal people, vanilla people, simply do not get anything fetish related. They just do not understand anything within the BDSM or kinky realm, and can't grasp that it's not about physical strength, fortitude, endurance or whatever, but rather about mental state or attitude, lusts and desires. The whole power dynamic shift that we understand, is baffling to them and beyond their comprehension...or at least it is for most. There is no way in hell an average woman could ever physically dominate the average male...period. Ever. So him submitting is not about being weak or being a "pussy", its about him willfully submitting TO the pussy, lol. 

I get people from past generations and eras not understanding this. But in todays world, with all the information we have, with the Internet, with munches, play parties, movies, porn sites, books, erotic books, porn stories, news articles, the plethora of information available, how so many still are ignorant of just a simple concept. And it also makes me wonder...do they have no imagination at all? Do they have no sex fantasies, no desires out of the "Insert Penis in Vagina" type of sexual urges? If true, it sort of makes me feel sorry for them...and perhaps for their sexual partners. Sounds like a boring existence. My point simply being...well I have no idea what my point was anymore, but it's up there somewhere. 🤣  
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Side note...for cuckolds...

 

13 comments:

  1. Great post Vanessa and i for one think the human brain is the biggest sex organ that there is. Submitting fully to someone you love is the most amazing experience in the world, truly life changing as i am sure that your hubby would also attest to.

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    1. He *might* attest to such...but his mouth is usually otherwise occupied. 😁

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  2. Hello miss Chaland. Maybe a huge amount of people is actually afraid of their own sex-drive, afraid of what might turn them on.

    Well, they miss out.

    Kind regards,

    Marco (from Lady Lindsay)

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  3. Well said. Though I think that some past eras were far more accepting, if not open, to sexual variety. Or maybe I've watched Caligula and Harlots too often. I also think that this pseudo-Puritanism is a uniquely American construct. Only the US finds sex shameful but death and dismemberment glorious and reflects that in its popular entertainment. Weird, to say the least.

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    1. You are totally correct FL. Parts of the "Big 3" (three primary monotheistic religions) have elements that are obsessed with sex, with fear and guilt over it, and with what other people do with their genitals, how often and in what position...it's rather demented really. :)

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  4. Vanassa thank you for posting and sharing....and you are right that so many do not understand.....but I mirror your first comment above.....being submissive to my Woman comes naturally to me, as I love her dearly and want her to enjoy life, and be happy, on her own terms.....and perhaps the "chores" I perform to show my love go beyond the normal, but the intimacy and depth of the relationship is special.

    I also believe one heck of a lot of "vanilla" people in public are anything but that behind closed doors....they are so insecure they need to hide that from public view. And perhaps in good taste as well.

    Thanks again
    hs

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  5. HS, nice message and sentiment about the woman in your life. And you could have a very valid point about the hypocrisy of presumed "vanilla" people. Hope you enjoy your weekend. :)

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  6. Great post. One of the men who was lucky enough to get into bed with my wife, just did not understand the dynamic. He thought because I am a cuckold and can be sexually submissive I must somehow be wimpy or inferior. He found ou that is not the case. I may be sexually submissive and may be a cuckold but I can assure you that I do not suffer fools. Fuck my wife, enjoy her body be a bull to her but never think you are going to bully me!

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    1. An understanding of what the "job" entails, and not, is always good to know...before showing up for the "job". :)

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  7. Hello miss Chaland,

    Oh dear, that's not a cock....that's a weapon of ass destruction, haha.

    Fun aside, I think I would come in 3rd compared to the ones above. Doesn't matter, mine does what it needs to do, whenever Lady Lindsay wants it.

    Kind regards,

    Marco (from Lady Lindsay)

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    1. 3rd place is fine Marco. :)

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    2. Thank you very much, miss Chaland.

      Kind regards,

      Marco

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