Face Sitting and Grinding. :)

                           

The thing about extended positioning for oral service is...she's either seated, laying, prone or supine. Unless someone has the ability to levitate, I'm not aware of any other angles or positions that would work. If she's laying, and you got "Lickers Neck Ache"...elevating your bed or a chair is the only way I can think of to avoid that issue. Unless one had a barber chair of sorts, where she could lay back and use foot stirrups, but that would still be her seated, you down under. The only difference being if she's high enough, you'd be seated and with a straight neck/spine. Or you could go all Tarzan and have a hammock of some nature hanging from the ceiling. But now I'm getting into the realms of the imponderable, so consider a Queening chair, or not, but either way, I will cease babbling...and go see if I can find my pants.  :)

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Posting Personal Ads...

I think any ad, posted anywhere, regardless of the forum or theme of the site, that is overtly blunt or direct, is not going to yield good results. Ads that seem like the person is ordering up someone (vanilla, kinky, dominant, submissive, whatever) from a drive thru are ubiquitous and are usually ignored, for good reason. They generally read as someone desiring an "employee" who will focus on their needs, desires and pleasure, rather than someone seeking a *whole* person to spend time with, and possibly spend their lives together. And within the BDSM realm, they will be tagged as originating from a "Do me sub". And no one likes that. 

Placing an ad that comes from someone appearing to be well rounded, rational and sane, listing some general interests and hobbies is what would garner views and possible connections. And guys, keep in mind, confidence is sexy (as is a sense of humor and empathy). As per confidence, if it appears that someone is desperate, meaning they failed in their search on fetish sites, and are now trolling vanilla sites, that reeks that they're not scoring well and screams "Alert" and caution flags go up.  

But beyond writing an ad that shows a balanced person behind it, interjecting certain words or terms that imply a healthy and alternative sex drive should not be a deal breaker. Mentioning that you prefer a "take charge" woman, that you love to know she's sated and happy, are not averse to compersion, are somewhat obeisant and malleable, should catch the eye of any woman that is so inclined to desiring a mate that supports that type of lifestyle. But as a caveat, I should mention that I've never been to a dating site, of any sort, so possibly have no idea what the hell I'm talking about.  :)

Just a minor point, but not everyone engages in verbal negotiations and talks about limits, fantasies, safe words and so on. Something to consider when in the intial stages of "sexy talk" or sexting or whatever the hell people do. For some people, the whole thing just sort of evolves, it just grows and happens, without much more than a small verbal cue, or a nod of the head. Reactions, interest, disgust, favorites, lust and passion is gauged from body language, from breathing, panting, moans, groans and orgasms. 

 And for those already in a relationship, regardless of the dynamic and what someone might have a fantasy for...if someone feels the need to "push" their spouse into something, whatever it is, where that genuine interest doesn't already exist...its not going to go well in the long run, and sometimes not in the immediate either. Enthusiasm is always good...if its directed towards the goal of a mutually rewarding experience & lives. The operative word being "mutually". Maybe consider, if kink is involved, not getting hung up on the verbiage, the titles, the rituals and all that initially either, as for some people, it can be too intense and even intimidating. For myself, I don't feel the need to draw a distinction between sex, power and control. All three can be interconnected and there is this fluidity that combines them into what is...just me. I don't need a title and all the accouterments, the whole production that seems to increasingly be shown as what a "FemDom" is, or is supposed to say, do, look like, wear and all that nonsense mostly depicted from the porn industry. In other words, and no idea if this will even resonate with most people these days....dominant women? Yeah...we don't need no stinking badges. :) 

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