Levels of Cuckold Humiliation.

Someone posted a similar question on a forum I was reading, so it got me thinking. It seems that a lot of people view sexual humiliation as needing to be something very profound or public. But I think sometimes the "restrained" can be as intense, or even more powerful, than the blunt or graphic. A subtle look, a nod, a smirk, touching something, pointing at something, a raised eyebrow, a small utterance can be devastatingly humiliating, done by the right person to the right recipient. The brain being the largest sex organ, can be moulded, taunted, teased and tormented, without much happening in the physical sense. So to that end, the "degree" of humiliation is unique to each couple, to each scenario, and can evolve or change from day to day.  For myself, I don't see a specific act as being the end-all/be-all from a humiliation standpoint as much as it being an ongoing, never ending series of semi-emasculating reminders and acts that affect my cuckolded to make him embarrassed, belittled, put in his place, aroused and therefore more subservient...if that makes any sense. 

Along the same theme, the question occasionally arises, how often, if ever, should a cuckold be allowed access to the "Holy Grail".  As for my cuckold...or maybe any/some/all/most cuckolds, or other sub guys in general, that's complicated. I think a lot of them are either natural born, or "trained" masochists (and yes the nature/nurture question/debate is fascinating, but I'll not go into that now). Tease and Denial, ruined orgasms, being denied sex and acts like that might further excite them. So, if a masochist gains pleasure by being denied, aren't some of his urges satisfied already...by being denied? Having him deprived/frustrated adds to my sadistic pleasure, as its a power trip which I love. 

I have sex with my cuckold...maybe 2 or 3 times a year. Just to remind him of what a real man should be doing. And of course I taunt and tease him for a few days beforehand. Berating him to last longer than a minute before he orgasms, as he usually does, thereby creating anxiety, blue balls, nerves, so when I do allow him access...he ejaculates within a few seconds...thereby setting me up to mock, humiliate, degrade, demean and torment him...for the next time. 

So does this sort of "deny" them their sexuality? Not really, they still have their sexuality, they just don't enjoy it as much as they feel they should, due to a lack of sex, in the conventional sense. Sure, some might bitch, beg and moan about it, well too bad. My pleasure, his misery. His sexual angst and distress, my pleasure. Compersion is a worthy cause, for some submissive men. I guess. Maybe. Not totally sure. Just ruminating over here...and like most of my posts...there really is no point.  :)