(Not my writing. Author unknown. I agree with her on some points, disagree on others.)
Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about how cuckolding is portrayed online and the widespread misunderstandings about it so I’ve been giving some thought to what I feel is the most accurate definition of cuckolding and also of what I believe cuckolding definitely is not.
First of all, I realize this may be controversial to some but I believe cuckolding does not belong in a fetish list, BDSM page, or kink collection. Cuckolding is an actual relationship. Let me explain…
Cuckolding is a loving, long term, and committed relationship. It’s a consensual one-sided non monogamous relationship where both people give each other everything they need to feel fulfilled and trusted. It’s a beautiful relationship dynamic that is emotional, thrilling, and so wonderfully intense. It only works when it’s an real relationship – otherwise it is meaningless.
Having said all of that, this is what cuckolding is not: cuckolding is not some random guy asking a random woman if he can watch her fuck another guy. Cuckolding is not findoms who demand financial slavery from submissive men or use or abuse them to manipulate them – consensually or not, this is NOT cuckolding. Cuckolding is also not meeting up with a femdom ‘mistress’ for a night so the two of you can play out a cuckolding fantasy together.
Unfortunately the real meaning of cuckolding has been heavily distorted by the inaccurate portrayal in mainstream porn coupled with the femdom/findom women using the cuckoldress label for their own profit, and that’s really sad because that’s not what it’s about at all. I feel bad for the people who are just beginning to learn about cuckolding and are bombarded with these false narratives and it’s no wonder so many women are turned off by cuckolding when they happen to go online to try to learn about it.
Yes cuckolding is a broad spectrum with different aspects intertwined however from one end to the next, the foundation of it all is a real relationship between two people in love and that’s what makes it so special – even magical. So let’s get it straight: that’s the part that we all should celebrate , educate, and promote.
Venus xo
I too agree on some points and disagree on others. I personally believe cuckolding does belong on a fetish list, and incorporated with BDSM...when, it won't, becomes the norm then it's no longer kink...till then, its fuckin kinky...lol. Cuckolding can be so many different things to so many different people and incorporate so many other kinky things that only the base definition is needed to call it cuckolding....??
ReplyDeleteIt's obviously not mainstream, vanilla, sex-once-a-month with the lights off... :)
Deleteand its not the stereo type fantasy big black guy takes my wife and its not she wants to be pregnant by someone else
ReplyDeleteit is as you say loving
my wife comes home to me after being with her other man. usually that night sometimes the next day sometimes longer but she comes home to me
she panders to my humiliation desires by telling me about what they did the physical pleasures she had
she and her friends our friends pander to my fetishes by babying me and the friends baby sit me if she goes overnight
the things she does for me to feel the way i desire are as special to me as my encouraging her to seek the pleasures she deserves are special to her
it works as a true loving relationship
All very well stated. :)
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