Quite often I see discussions online weighing the pros and cons of female domination in a worldly context, as in "women should run things" (meaning business, politics etc.) and/or domination within a marriage, on a full time basis. I'm a very sexually aggressive, quite greedy, demanding and bossy bitch in the bedroom. Outside of that, I'm very easy going and mostly laid back. The only thing that really fires me up and pisses me off is bullying, in person or via political agendas. Beyond that I'm usually joking around, laughing and messing with people in a fun lighthearted way.
Having said that, I have no desire to do a 24/7 Domme/sub thing. I value my husbands intellect, his knowledge, his expertise on a variety of matters and topics. He has his strengths and experience, and I not only admire that, but find it sexy. True, on a day to day basis, I sort of run everything in our daily lives, but that's not due to any sexualized fetishy FemDom thing as opposed to just how our relationship evolved. When it comes to the mundane, the usual things like shopping, taxes, making sure the puppies and kitties get to the Vet, all the boring details of life, I arrange and supervise most things, just because I'm better at it than he is. But again, this is based on what makes our lives easier, happier, more productive, fluid, and less chaotic, and not anything beyond that.
As to the "loser" topic that seems to pop up so much in "FemDom" discussions and forums, (you know the sort of thing, cuckolds are "losers" and all that nonsense) its not one I've ever fully understood nor endorse. I know the online FinDoms, those of that ilk, some poorly written fictional porn stories adopt that theme, but to me its just arbitrary, naïve and sort of stupid. What makes someone a "winner" in life in some peoples view, is a "loser" to others...and vice-versa.
What I mean is, someone that has sexual inferior skills, technique, diminutive endowment (classic cuckold depictions, and accurate in most cases), might excel in all other aspects of life. He might be a gigantically huge body builder, a bad MoFo marital artist, a very successful businessman, and display all the visual "markers" of what a vapid society views as being a "winner". Personally, I'd like to remove any and all criteria of ones remuneration or wealth as a scorecard of "winner/loser" because to me that makes no sense. A persons heart, their agenda, how they treat others, their integrity, honesty, benevolence and other factors should massively outweigh a job, a title or a salary. The value of a human being should never be equated to the "value" of their bank account or acquired material possessions.
I fully believe all human beings are equal, promote egalitarianism, true equality, and don't think any one demographic should lead, while others follow. I'm just a sexually sadistic greedy Domme. I've got no desire to dominate anyone night and day, no urge to rule the world, no agenda within this context other than...getting my pussy properly pounded, massaged, caressed, kissed and licked. :)
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Irene and I agree - be a very sexually aggressive, quite greedy, demanding and bossy bitch in the bedroom. And once in a while in other locations.
ReplyDeleteBut domination for us is all about the sex. I guess the 24/7 stuff works for some people, but it is a little extreme.
Now that our kids are grown and gone, it's a lot easier for us to lapse into our sexual personas. It is something we do often but not all the time.
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See you bring up an interesting reality for some people...kids. As I've never dealt with that, its something I don't factor in for some people. But yes, that would be an impediment to a 24/7 nude Domme/sub lifestyle. Anyway, your life sounds good, kudos for that, and thanks for the message. :)
DeleteI relate to Vanessa's description of her husband. Like Vanessa's husband, I've excelled at competitive activities; sports, business, money, school, and career.
ReplyDeleteI've never KNOWINGLY been in a cuckold relationship. But as I near my 40th birthday. It's now clear. I've been a cuckold my entire dating life. Unknowingly I’ve been made the fool every time by girlfriends since high school.
I can study basketball, read books, watch games but will never be competitive at basketball. So at this point in my life, why struggle. I will never compete or be invited to the table with the top players in the sex fucking department. It's not going help if I watch sexual "Olympiads" expecting to compete or deliver the same results. At this point in life, it would make sense to let my GF find better fuck partners. I'm too shy (submissive) to bring up the topic. But I can only imagine what is on her mind after we have my best 10 or 20 seconds of fucking.
My thought is to stay in my lane. Open the sex for your significant other to a qualified, proven person. If we don't, she will be miserable. And for reason I still don’t understand. It seems so unbelievably easy for women to cheat??
Submissive, cucks are not losers. But don't fight mother nature.
Fantastic acknowledgement of mother nature, reality, limitations, and..."perfidiousness of the pussy" in some cases. My condolences to her on that 20 second mini-sexathon...I hope your tongue is in good working order. :)
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ReplyDeleteSpeaking quietly, fidgeting, averting eye contact I approach my wife. Honey, you need more, we KNOW. (bowing my head). No matter how many times I’ve tried to properly fuck you. Well, I’m just INCAPABLE. But I love you and I understand. PLEASE let me help. You need sexually competent men. It’s your biological need.
Sounds good. :)
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