Cuckolding...is it just me?

I find the actual "act" of cuckolding not quite as exciting as the before and after. By the "act" of course I mean the technical and literal point of having sex with another man. For me, a huge part of the "before and after" is as exciting as the "during". 

What I mean is when I have a date, with a recurring lover or a new one, I (usually) announce several days to my husband what my intentions are and when. This of course causes him great sexual anxiety, a tad bit of nervous jealousy.......which I thrive on. So there's a great deal of teasing, taunting, oblique references to sights, sounds, smells and tastes and all that entails. It means I will be demanding extra oral servicing and he can expect blue balls and some CBT and punishment due to my pent up....sexual anger, if that makes sense. 

I think what I'm trying to say is the actual "act" of cuckolding, meaning my lover penetrating me, might only last a few moments and he's out the door. But the "event" itself, from first notice to final cleanup and orgasm, can last all week. Just rambling here. :)