Seeking a Domme? Write out an ad that shows you're seeking an *actual* human being, a fully developed, well rounded, bright, intelligent, compassionate, loving, stern, ambitious, benevolent, sane, rational, altruistic, lucid, healthy, kinky, adult female for a sincere, honest and genuine relationship....you'll get results. Write out an ad like 99.99% of all guys do, one or two lines, typos, no Caps, about "me-me-me" and get ignored. Some guys get way too intense and sort of creepy/scary with their ads. Don't overthink, overstate, or oversell anything. Just view it as a bit of frisky fun. Just trying to enhance some mutual pleasure, a bit of roleplay, some frisky freaky frivolity. Pleasure, a bit of hedonism, some experimental playing around, enjoying each others bodies, sensations and life in general. Present it like that...maybe? :)
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Perfectionists? Feel like you're not a "good" enough Domme or sub? Give yourself a break. Your spouse is with you because they like you, love you, are attracted to you, are happy with you and are probably willing to do whatever it takes to make your life better and satisfying. Beating yourself down over a few minor details, is not healthy for them, for you, or for your relationship. This perfectionist thing...its sort of like an OCD for some people and has nothing to do with BDSM as many vanilla people do it as well. Anyone that has that, or that does that to themselves is...exhausting themselves, over nothing, and we already all know this, but some continue to do it anyway. You are fine the way you are, more than adequate, there is nothing wrong with you, nor your "performance" as your significant other has already probably already attested to. Don't drive yourself crazy over presumed "flaws" or failures that don't even exist. Be kinder to yourself. :)
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Think you've got a sex "addiction"? The term addiction is arbitrary and subjective, and is only an issue if its affecting your life in a negative way according to *you*, and not according to some half-baked therapist or shrink. If you think its a problem, then it is, and you might want to figure out how to address it. Medications, legal or not, can affect sex drive both ways, increasing or decreasing it. Stress, anxiety, boredom, OCD's and a myriad of other things can have an impact on our sex drives as well. But please don't try to adhere to what other people think is *normal* or average, or "appropriate" as their opinions should mean nothing to you. People are generally pretty bright, so analyze this objectively, on your own, the pros and cons, the "why" and how often and determine if its just who and how you are, which is fine, or if its detrimental to your life, then take steps from there to resolve it.
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Think women are only attracted to one "type" of guy? The macho manly Dude? The perception is we're only looking for a well off guy with material possessions and no substance beyond that. Don't draw your conclusions on what you see in the media. Billions of women want nothing to do with the types of guys I mentioned. Yep, that is indeed what the "media" depicts. And to some extent it is true. It is also true that there are roughly 4.5 billion women on this planet, many of whom don't have electricity, so they don't know how the "media" categorizes them, because they don't have a TV, much less a cell phone to access social media or Kardashian Instagram garbage. And there are unknown women that will live as ascetic nuns, eschewing all forms of material wealth, possessions, and trying to adhere to current "beauty" standards. My point being, obviously we are not homogenous. I'm trying to say...stop living in, or viewing the world, in a small vacuum.
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Someone posited in a thread that submissives are not treated equally and therefore its not right. Treating people with respect, dignity, affection, and class has *nothing* to do with whether one is dominant, submissive, a switch or vanilla. Equality, as in the right to seek justice, housing, employment, medical care, and similar human needs also...has *nothing* to do with whether one is dominant, submissive, a switch or vanilla. Not getting that is a warped view of equality, rights...and BDSM.
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Why do people conflate spirituality with organized religion? One is a personal pathway and ideology of life choices and options, the human condition, our Universe, our origins, the sun, stars, our ancestors, emotion, evolution, epistemology, ontology, sex, hot chocolate and kitties. The other is a doctrine, one is told to live by. I'm deeply spiritual, sexually dominant and am a Hotwife (though my "hotness" is debatable, giggles to self), cuckold my husband and so on. To that end, there is no conflict with my spirituality...because its not a philosophy dictated to me by some "Church Dude" with a funny hat, trying to heap sexual guilt on me. Be who you are. Its sometime easier said than done. I've been a social reject, a freak, an anomaly, an aberration and an outcast my whole life. But we all, you and I and everyone else, have every bit as much right to live our lives as we see fit, and to pursue happiness as anyone else does so...fuck anyone that doesn't like it. :)
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I have never, ever, ever seen, even one minute of a Kardashian show. I know almost nothing about them, could not even name half of them or pick them out of a photo lineup. And yet, somehow, my life has been just fine. :)
Yea...it looks great, but who the hell has the time for all this?
Dinner and a Show! Count me in! :)
Rainy London in Autumn.
Dad worked 3 jobs to be able to get together extra money for his daughters prom dress. :)
