With the rapid and firm administration of punishment you can keep these periodic outbursts in check. In my opinion most punishments can fundamentally be broken down into either the "domestic discipline" type or the "sexual domination" type. For now I'm only going to mention the domestic discipline type.
The former, traditional discipline, follows the "traditions" set in the formative years, although more so in previous generations than in present.
Traditional also follows a more regimented pattern or style of punishment, (usually otk or over-the-knee, or laying over a bed, chair etc, and lastly bent slightly while standing). As well, the implements are also rather basic and seem to be more popular depending on the region from whence you come. In England and surrounding areas the cane, birch rods and straps seem to be historically preferred. In America paddles, hairbrush and in southern regions switches are more traditional. Of course I suggest using all of the above, plus a few more. :)
One can not overemphasis the importance of using good hard spankings as the foundation of any discipline training program. This should be expected and also accepted as a given. Regardless of the other interests that may be included, firm, sound bare bottom spanking should be used regularly and in a no nonsense manner.
For standard offences the use of your firm hand and at least one other implement should suffice. For more serious offences multiple implements should be used. Some people (myself included) use what is called "maintenance spankings" to help ensure that you punish them for all the little things they did which you don't know about, and also to help "refresh" the memory. This can be set up on whatever schedule you desire, or at random. I personally have a maintenance session usually about once a month. While the level of severity is obviously up to you, I feel it's best to make a lasting impression.
For most people, the standard is to start off with a bare bottom over the lap spanking. Often a good solid wood hairbrush is introduced after a bit, and then a position change would be required for the use of longer implements. Laying over a bed, a chair, an ottoman works really well. Bent over a chair, standing leaning over with his hands on the wall works well too, especially for a caning. Another favorite position of mine is what is commonly referred to as the "diaper position" which is simply their laying on their back, with legs bent and raised, pulled towards the chest. Essentially as if you were diapering a baby. This position works well for added exposure and humiliation.
One can not discount the multiple benefits of firm discipline and punishment while dealing with your errant or unmotivated partner. I believe it can help clean the air between both of you, it will alleviate your sense of frustration, it may reduce their guilt and be cathartic, it should increase their willingness to follow your directions and wishes to a letter. Of course this may be contingent upon your being able to maintain firm control and administer the necessary punishment.
I think that the mental portion of a punishment session is equal to the physical. Therefore with myself all sessions begin with a lengthy question and answer period, then a brief lecture by me, followed by a strict scolding and then the beginning of the actual physical punishment. Usually I feel that this entire process is better served if they are either nude or at least with bare bottom exposed. This enhances their focus on the upcoming punishment, and adds greatly to the feeling of vulnerability. I prefer making them either stand or kneel in front of me, or for a portion can be over my lap. I think that direct eye contact for at least part of his lecture is very important.
After the scolding session is done, I usually start off with a good old fashioned over the lap bare bottom spanking. I have seen and heard about other women giving a "warm up" spanking which I do not agree with. I begin with very firm and hard slaps to the bottom and backs of thighs immediately. My intent is to get every thing to a nice red rosy glow and I usually continue with the scolding while in this position. After a bit I will switch to a hairbrush. I have a few different ones that I will use for different purposes, one is heavier and larger, other a harder wood etc.
I feel its best to rotate around a bit and make sure to pay special attention to the crease where thighs connect to bottom. This is a very sensitive yet safe place where the brush can be applied very soundly and get very good results. I feel that a discipline spanking should be just one "degree" below overwhelming. If you are spanking a man, lets face it ladies, most guys are physically stronger than us, and if you are not using restraints he could overpower you and remove himself from your lap. You want to keep it so that he is right at the threshold of wanting to "flee or escape" but under that level just enough so he can maintain his position and comportment.
After a long does of the hairbrush (I will often go into the hundreds, but I don't count strokes or numbers) I will have order them to reposition themselves for either a strapping, caning, cropping or switching. For these I either have them stand slightly leaning over a chair, or sofa, laying over a low stool or ottoman, or in the legs up position (or diaper position). Your objective is to have them positioned so that you have easy access to the bare bottom, with no interference from chair arms, or chair backs, and good clearance to swing your chosen implement with no concern about hitting walls, lights or ceiling fans, fixtures etc.
From this point I will usually "switch or rotate" implements. I will administer maybe 20 to 30 (again I don't really count) with the cane, then switch to the crop, then strap and so on. For a more serious punishment session this could actually go on for quite some time. I often stop for a moment and will interrogate the recipient about how their bottom feels, if they are learning anything, if they are truly sorry and so forth.
On different days a certain implement can feel different to the recipient. I will usually ask which one is hurting the most and causing the greatest discomfort, and then apply an extra few dozen with that same one with extra vigor and enthusiasm.
Remember, you are not trying to make this fun for, you are trying to whip and spank their bottom till they learn and often until they cry. On those occasions where I do bring tears to the eyes, I certainly will not show leniency at this point. I will continue to administer the same punishment I was that brought this on, and will often escalate it's severity. Keep in mind that a long punishment session such as this can often take up to an hour. In order to not have to repeat it every few days you want to make a lasting impression. If you spend at least an hour for the whole "production" meaning the scolding, spanking, lecturing etc, and are applying it soundly enough, you should only have to do it about once a month or so.
When you are done their bottom and the backs of upper thighs should be red, mottled, criss crossed with welts from your switches, belts, straps and canes. Within a day bruising will probably occur and should not be worried about. I prefer to not use heavy paddles for this very reason. While you can inflict great pain and suffering, and cause a great deal of visual damage this can be done with no lingering marks or any kind of damage. Lighter implements made of wood will get the job done but never do any kind of "deep tissue" bruising. Great care should be made to never hit any area around the lower spine or the tailbone. Before using a cane or long device you should check your distance to make sure the end or tip will not wrap around the hips. Also you should never hit the lower thighs. About two hands width below the crease area is fine, but lower than that on most people there is not enough muscle or padding to safely cover the connective tissues, ligaments, etc. You can slap the insides of the thighs with your hand or a light instrument and I will occasionally dedicate a whole punishment session to just the thighs and legs.
Some people believe that after every session the recipient should spend some quality time in the corner. The humiliation of standing with sore red recently spanked bottom exposed, and face is in the corner is priceless. Or consider....this would also be a good time to have one of your girlfriends drop in (meaning prearranged) for a quick cup of coffee. As they will not be allowed to turn around, they can only hear the two of you talking as if nothing unusual was occurring. :)
