I have touched briefly before on the whole "topping from the bottom" issue and I would just like to clarify my opinion on the topic. Some people get caught up on this and the implication is that anything the "sub" suggests is an attempt at topping. I see it differently.
If submissive B suggests to Domme A that by using the futon cushion, with the bean bag below, and the larger throw pillows under her bottom he will thereby have better access to her (whatever she wants attention paid to) and at the same time she will not have to support her body weight on her "feet-hands-elbows-knees-etc" then the purpose of his suggestion is to benefit them both in their mutual pleasure. Its not an attempt to switch roles, or his trying to become the boss, exert power, or to "objectify" her (or him if its a male Dom) in some fashion.
On that note, I have always felt that good sex involves at least *some* objectification, some domestic violence (not in the bad way as you all fully know) some slapping, biting, and some sort of humiliation. I mean seriously, Hollywood has long depicted "sex" as some sort of "1950s, Ward and June Cleaver, romantic kissing, soft music, dainty, sanitized type of act when in reality it usually seems to be "Harder, Harder, fuck me harder, spank this, twist that, suck it and swallow it" escapade.
To that end, if it appears that if a sub/slave is trying to "reverse roles" that does not mean they have some secret agenda to overthrow the Dommes rule. In my mind this is supposed to be fun. If someone has a good idea, or a better idea, or has more experience, or a bigger-faster-better toy, a new twist, a revised edition, a newly discovered position, and if it makes both people happier and satisfied, then it matters not one whit who suggested the idea.
The only case where this could be a major point of contention is if "Domme" wants/enjoys candle wax, golden showers and enemas, and "sub" enjoys St. Andrews Cross, single tail floggers, and has a foot fetish. In that regard they have probably no business being together or "playing" with each other and it doesn't matter who is the top or bottom, Domme or Sub, no one is going to be happy.
All of this kink and fetish that we do should be to make peoples lives happier, more exciting, and a mutually beneficial activity. Suggestions and ideas should be freely exchanged. At least in my opinion, though I could be wrong. :)
Thursday, January 26, 2017
Wednesday, January 25, 2017
A Modern Trinity: Porn, Public Health and Politics.
For the second time in recent months, Tennessee State Sen. Mae Beavers has proposed a joint resolution to “recognize pornography as a public health hazard leading to a broad spectrum of individual and public health impacts and societal harms.”
Sex Positivity and Progress.
Over the last few years....progress. Its progress for those of us that live an alternative lifestyle within the sexual realm of things. And it lends hope that the trend will continue to areas of equal rights for everyone in every single aspect of our lives. By that I mean not only in a racial and gender/sex way, but also for those cross dressers, transvestites and transsexuals, bisexual, pan-sexual, gay and lesbian and of course within the S&M and B&D, and any variation of the kink fetish world.
Everyone should live a life of security and dignity. Well, maybe not in the bedroom and what dominant women do to submissive males. I mean the beatings and punishment and humiliation is to be expected and I fully endorse that. In the sexual sense cuckolds and sissies and fluffers and those that are made to engage in "forced gay" acts of degradation and humiliation is not the same as what happens out in the everyday real world where some want to deny rights, censor free speech and not allow people to purchase erotic material, dildos, leather fetish items and riding crops to be used on human males. :)
Sometimes I think that mostly anyone under maybe age.......35 or so are not aware of how life was under the various repressive governments here in the USA (which can never compare to governments around the world, even today for so many others in so many ways). Kudos to the Hugh Hefners and Ed Lees and Larry Flynt's of the world. While he is offensive to some and unpopular to many, Larry Flynt has possibly done more for the right to own and view erotic material in the USA than any other person. I mean this guy was incarcerated time and again, harassed, demonized, spent a fortune on legal fees and shot and left paralyzed and still never gave up.
Not so long ago.......and even now in a few counties you can be arrested for owning "porn" or dildos or for having interracial sex and of course gay sex and so on. Lives were/are ruined, people were ostracized in their communities, lost their jobs, estranged from family, had their kids taken away all because of a little erotic reading or movies. Mind boggling and we still have a long ways to go, because....some of the members of the new administration are misogynistic homophobes who (pretend) to hate sex and want gays back in the closet, only biological women to wear skirts, and us back in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant.
And you know at this point we can't just leave it up to the guys. If guys speak out in a sex positive way their are labeled (still) as being "perverts" and of course the same applies to gay males...though probably even more so. We have to be the ones that continue to take the lead in the modern day version off the "sexual revolution" and demand equal rights, ownership of our bodies and minds and if you're like me, all the cock and tongue a girl can stand. :)
Everyone should live a life of security and dignity. Well, maybe not in the bedroom and what dominant women do to submissive males. I mean the beatings and punishment and humiliation is to be expected and I fully endorse that. In the sexual sense cuckolds and sissies and fluffers and those that are made to engage in "forced gay" acts of degradation and humiliation is not the same as what happens out in the everyday real world where some want to deny rights, censor free speech and not allow people to purchase erotic material, dildos, leather fetish items and riding crops to be used on human males. :)
Sometimes I think that mostly anyone under maybe age.......35 or so are not aware of how life was under the various repressive governments here in the USA (which can never compare to governments around the world, even today for so many others in so many ways). Kudos to the Hugh Hefners and Ed Lees and Larry Flynt's of the world. While he is offensive to some and unpopular to many, Larry Flynt has possibly done more for the right to own and view erotic material in the USA than any other person. I mean this guy was incarcerated time and again, harassed, demonized, spent a fortune on legal fees and shot and left paralyzed and still never gave up.
Not so long ago.......and even now in a few counties you can be arrested for owning "porn" or dildos or for having interracial sex and of course gay sex and so on. Lives were/are ruined, people were ostracized in their communities, lost their jobs, estranged from family, had their kids taken away all because of a little erotic reading or movies. Mind boggling and we still have a long ways to go, because....some of the members of the new administration are misogynistic homophobes who (pretend) to hate sex and want gays back in the closet, only biological women to wear skirts, and us back in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant.
And you know at this point we can't just leave it up to the guys. If guys speak out in a sex positive way their are labeled (still) as being "perverts" and of course the same applies to gay males...though probably even more so. We have to be the ones that continue to take the lead in the modern day version off the "sexual revolution" and demand equal rights, ownership of our bodies and minds and if you're like me, all the cock and tongue a girl can stand. :)
Racists....People of Color.
Racists must really have severe inferiority complexes. I found this online and am stunned that some sad little person expended so much time and effort to put this together to "prove" their point. And the point they "proved" is......I'm not sure what?
At my gym there is a very diverse group of people. We all work out together. I slap one big booty black girl on the butt in the locker room and make her laugh. The Hispanic guys flirt with me and I flirt back and make them happy. There are several people that have disabilities. One guy missing his left arm, I am not sure why, and no one cares to ask. One guy about 24 that's in a wheel chair due to foot problems from Spina bifida.
There are old people, so old they can barely walk, and everyone makes sure they get first call on the recumbent bikes as they need to sit while trying to exercise.
There are gay guys, some reserved and some flaming. There are lesbian couples, young and old.
There are 3 Trans people that I can think of...but probably more.
There are Jewish people, a few people with a variety of turbans (Sikhs I assume) and a few Native Americans.
Everyone shows up at this "melting pot" where the only thing that ever happens is people helping each other, showing newer members how to use the equipment, spotting each other, smiling, laughing, encouraging, flirting, dating, joking, just living and being happy.
I simply do not understand homophobe's and/or racists. I just don't get it.
Tuesday, January 24, 2017
Sissy Skirt - Cross Dressing Clothing - Fetish Clothes.
A client contacted me wanting a skirt that could achieve that "panty flashing twirl action". So, I made this and enjoyed doing it as custom order. Should anyone desire anything similar, or certain other sorts of fetish apparel....feel free to contact me here or through my Etsy Shop.
As my mannequins waist is only 23 inches....and this was for a person somewhat larger, I had to hang it like a tube top to display it. :)
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