(A reader contacted me privately and asked the following....reposted with his permission of course.)
Vanessa,
Do you think someone, a man or woman and a couple, once bitten by the intensity of the hotwife-cuck fem-dom dynamic, could ever be truly satisfied without it? Could they ever go back to purely "vanilla?" (Name withheld by me.)
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(My reply to "No Name"),
Vanilla?
No.
Are there other ways to get fulfillment and still be happy?
Sure.
I just view it as it being as much a part of our makeup and nature as is ones preference for the genres of books, movies or music we enjoy. Some people will always, always, always prefer classical over any other type. If suddenly there was no more classical music, they'd find something relatively close to it and still find comparative happiness with that. Apply the same to sports, or food or whatever else.
But while your question was about one sort of specific act/fetish within the larger realm (yes, you mentioned FemDom dynamic) its hard to put into context what "vanilla" is to the individual. If someone thinks oral sex is "kinky" and suddenly had to go without, there is still normal penetrative sex. So, would they still have some satisfaction? Sure.
I would point out to you that you've never been "vanilla" in the classical sense as you are bi. To a hardcore socially conservative....that's already a sin and makes you of questionable moral turpitude. Meaning a perverted freak in their eyes. So its all sort of relative to begin with.
For myself, if all avenues of "kinky sex" were suddenly cut off from me, I suppose I'd have normal intercourse a few times a year and that's it. :)
Thursday, December 8, 2016
Cuckolding Pros and Cons
Saving money on maids as the cuckold does most of the housework.
Saving money on Viagra as his ability to get erect is of no relevance to my sexual satisfaction.
Saving money on Rabbits and batteries as his well trained tongue is always at my disposal.....always.
Not having to worry about his questions of if I desire other men as they are fucking me in front of his face....literally.
Not having to worry about his questions of whether or not he was "good enough" as the answer is always......no.
Not having to worry about his questions of whether or not I came as he'll know when I soak his face and tongue.
Not having to worry about left over condom wrappers, used condoms or spilled or leaking sperm as cuckold deals with all messes.....like it or not.
Having to endlessly sift through ads and run ads and reply to ads from wanna-be Bulls who just don't get it. Having to endlessly sift through e-mails from guys that ask to be cuckolded, dominated, facesat, ballbusted, wanting to buy panties, socks, lingerie, asking for photos, videos, sexting, chats, IMs, while totally ignoring the point that my profile and/or ad clearly states I am not looking for submissive men and are not now, nor have ever been, nor ever will be a ProDom.
I get it guys, dominate women are hard to find but I'm just a simple little average housewife who happens to dominate and cuckold her husband. I don't "outsource" my sexual needs (to subs, sissies, cuckolds or wimps..... real men are welcome to apply) and I also don't run any sort of Domme/sub introduction. I wish I did and could, but I don't and can't so you have to find your own. :)
Saving money on Viagra as his ability to get erect is of no relevance to my sexual satisfaction.
Saving money on Rabbits and batteries as his well trained tongue is always at my disposal.....always.
Not having to worry about his questions of if I desire other men as they are fucking me in front of his face....literally.
Not having to worry about his questions of whether or not he was "good enough" as the answer is always......no.
Not having to worry about his questions of whether or not I came as he'll know when I soak his face and tongue.
Not having to worry about left over condom wrappers, used condoms or spilled or leaking sperm as cuckold deals with all messes.....like it or not.
Having to endlessly sift through ads and run ads and reply to ads from wanna-be Bulls who just don't get it. Having to endlessly sift through e-mails from guys that ask to be cuckolded, dominated, facesat, ballbusted, wanting to buy panties, socks, lingerie, asking for photos, videos, sexting, chats, IMs, while totally ignoring the point that my profile and/or ad clearly states I am not looking for submissive men and are not now, nor have ever been, nor ever will be a ProDom.
I get it guys, dominate women are hard to find but I'm just a simple little average housewife who happens to dominate and cuckold her husband. I don't "outsource" my sexual needs (to subs, sissies, cuckolds or wimps..... real men are welcome to apply) and I also don't run any sort of Domme/sub introduction. I wish I did and could, but I don't and can't so you have to find your own. :)
Cuckold Losers?
Do you think men that get cuckolded are losers? I saw this on a thread somewhere and it made me think about several aspects of this interesting question/accusation.
For one thing, I'm going to mostly discount the percent of married couples that use a form of cuckoldry for reproduction. That's not only a whole topic of its own, but very separate to the one that I engage in.....which is about my pleasure. Sure, technically a guy who's shooting blanks and unable to impregnate his wife could be considered to have "inferior sperm". But then that opens the door to the discussion of women who, for a multitude of reasons, are unable to become pregnant on their side of the coupling. And I never mock other women (well, with the exception of politicians, gold-diggers, Kardashians and Gwyneth Paltrow, lol) especially when it comes to a serious issue like reproduction and the enormous emotional issues that can accompany it.
No, I'm talking about the sexually inferior men with small dicks, or those that ejaculate far too soon, or those with overall lousy lovemaking, or fucking skills. Those that just simply can not rock her boat, be it wife, girlfriend or Mistress.
Now, do I see them as losers in life?
No.
A loser as far as intelligence, kindness, compassion or dedication?
No.
A loser in the ability to provide for himself and family?
No.
Economic earning potential, ability to workout, self defense or patriotism?
No.
Are they, in my book at least, "losers" in that they are unable to satisfy a woman with their penis?
Yes.
Are they losers in they have to use tongue, fingers, vibrators or other means to get her off?
Yes.
I mean I value their motivation and dedication to using whatever alternate means, methods or devices to ensure that their vastly better half has the orgasms she wants and deserves, that is commendable and I applaud them for that. But if they can't provide a long and thick cock, that can't last for at least.......say 15 minutes minimum, that hard drilling, pussy pounding, toe curling, make her squirt, swear, perhaps invoke the name of God or Jesus, type of orgasms.......yea, sexually a loser.
Do I have less respect for them as a man....as a human being....hell no.....of course not.
Do I have less respect for them as a man....as a worthy sex partner.......hell yes......I mean they're great overall, except for one thing, one tiny little inadequate thing.......:)
(As Google without warning deleted my old blogs, I'm reposting some posts I wrote in past that were stored elsewhere. For those that may have read them before, just ignore. For those that have not....they may be enjoyable to read. )
For one thing, I'm going to mostly discount the percent of married couples that use a form of cuckoldry for reproduction. That's not only a whole topic of its own, but very separate to the one that I engage in.....which is about my pleasure. Sure, technically a guy who's shooting blanks and unable to impregnate his wife could be considered to have "inferior sperm". But then that opens the door to the discussion of women who, for a multitude of reasons, are unable to become pregnant on their side of the coupling. And I never mock other women (well, with the exception of politicians, gold-diggers, Kardashians and Gwyneth Paltrow, lol) especially when it comes to a serious issue like reproduction and the enormous emotional issues that can accompany it.
No, I'm talking about the sexually inferior men with small dicks, or those that ejaculate far too soon, or those with overall lousy lovemaking, or fucking skills. Those that just simply can not rock her boat, be it wife, girlfriend or Mistress.
Now, do I see them as losers in life?
No.
A loser as far as intelligence, kindness, compassion or dedication?
No.
A loser in the ability to provide for himself and family?
No.
Economic earning potential, ability to workout, self defense or patriotism?
No.
Are they, in my book at least, "losers" in that they are unable to satisfy a woman with their penis?
Yes.
Are they losers in they have to use tongue, fingers, vibrators or other means to get her off?
Yes.
I mean I value their motivation and dedication to using whatever alternate means, methods or devices to ensure that their vastly better half has the orgasms she wants and deserves, that is commendable and I applaud them for that. But if they can't provide a long and thick cock, that can't last for at least.......say 15 minutes minimum, that hard drilling, pussy pounding, toe curling, make her squirt, swear, perhaps invoke the name of God or Jesus, type of orgasms.......yea, sexually a loser.
Do I have less respect for them as a man....as a human being....hell no.....of course not.
Do I have less respect for them as a man....as a worthy sex partner.......hell yes......I mean they're great overall, except for one thing, one tiny little inadequate thing.......:)
(As Google without warning deleted my old blogs, I'm reposting some posts I wrote in past that were stored elsewhere. For those that may have read them before, just ignore. For those that have not....they may be enjoyable to read. )
Transparent Homophobic Comments?
Have you ever noticed that whenever any homophobic nutcase wants to protest the advances in equality for gays and lesbians they almost invariably use the following two terms?
"Stop shoving your homosexual rights in my face!"
"Stop shoving your gay rights down my throat!"
What are we to glean from this? A little Freudian slip? I mean they see gay rights (and gay people in general) as being nothing other then cock sucking and/or pussy eating lesbians right? Is that why they always refer to either the face or mouth/throat? You never see one of them proclaim loudly in a public setting, "Stop shoving your gay business up my ass!"
At least I've never heard anyone say that.
Sad how they can't grasp that this is simply today's version of the civil rights movement of the 50's and 60's. Or women's struggle to gain parity in compensation, or our right to vote and all those other "pesky" little issues that we bother the white male dominated power structure with. :)
"Stop shoving your homosexual rights in my face!"
"Stop shoving your gay rights down my throat!"
What are we to glean from this? A little Freudian slip? I mean they see gay rights (and gay people in general) as being nothing other then cock sucking and/or pussy eating lesbians right? Is that why they always refer to either the face or mouth/throat? You never see one of them proclaim loudly in a public setting, "Stop shoving your gay business up my ass!"
At least I've never heard anyone say that.
Sad how they can't grasp that this is simply today's version of the civil rights movement of the 50's and 60's. Or women's struggle to gain parity in compensation, or our right to vote and all those other "pesky" little issues that we bother the white male dominated power structure with. :)
Saucy Faux Sex Experts.
I freely admit to being sort of out of the loop on many things but increasingly I've come across a plethora of videos on YouTube with little 20 year olds blathering on and on about a variety of sexual fetishes and kinks.....that they seem to have zero understanding of.
What I don't get is......why? I can't see any indication they are doing it for financial gain, no sign of potential remuneration so that can't be the impetus. Based on their own comments they don't engage in any fetish type lifestyle so its not based on personal desires nor interest. I can only assume its a rather shallow need to be "seen" on a social media site. I guess the need for fame makes them bloviate on topics they know nothing about with the hopes of filling some void in their shallow lives. Its just stupid though....its like an English only speaking atheist saying Mass....in Latin, lol.
What is disturbing is that viewers will see them as an "expert" and assume the garbage they're spewing is fact or reality. Its not.....and it contributes to the endless dumbing down of Americans (and others). It also helps to ensure that with the fallacious diatribes their selling, more confused people with a sincere and genuine desire to find a suitable partner.....won't. Unrealistic expectations, false hopes and misinformation does not assist others in finding a mate when the information being feed to them is so totally wrong.
Its just so sad. Sex and my style of Female Domination rule has been a huge part of my life and very fulfilling to me. I hate the thought that some might go their whole lives never being able to experience the same thing...because the "advice" their getting is from people that have zero knowledge about it.
What I don't get is......why? I can't see any indication they are doing it for financial gain, no sign of potential remuneration so that can't be the impetus. Based on their own comments they don't engage in any fetish type lifestyle so its not based on personal desires nor interest. I can only assume its a rather shallow need to be "seen" on a social media site. I guess the need for fame makes them bloviate on topics they know nothing about with the hopes of filling some void in their shallow lives. Its just stupid though....its like an English only speaking atheist saying Mass....in Latin, lol.
What is disturbing is that viewers will see them as an "expert" and assume the garbage they're spewing is fact or reality. Its not.....and it contributes to the endless dumbing down of Americans (and others). It also helps to ensure that with the fallacious diatribes their selling, more confused people with a sincere and genuine desire to find a suitable partner.....won't. Unrealistic expectations, false hopes and misinformation does not assist others in finding a mate when the information being feed to them is so totally wrong.
Its just so sad. Sex and my style of Female Domination rule has been a huge part of my life and very fulfilling to me. I hate the thought that some might go their whole lives never being able to experience the same thing...because the "advice" their getting is from people that have zero knowledge about it.
Foods that elevate sex drive.
Can Foods Increase a Male's Sex Drive?
http://www.livestrong.com/article/15492-what-foods-increase-males-sex/
Foods To Increase Libido.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/230_love_tip.html
11 Foods to Get Your Sex Drive Going Naturally.
http://www.organicauthority.com/mojo-foods/11-foods-that-get-your-sex-drive-going-naturally.html
Because a well fed and healthy Bull will fuck you so much better....and (if its your sort of thing) leave behind some healthy sperm for a tasty little cuckolds treat. :)
http://www.livestrong.com/article/15492-what-foods-increase-males-sex/
Foods To Increase Libido.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/230_love_tip.html
11 Foods to Get Your Sex Drive Going Naturally.
http://www.organicauthority.com/mojo-foods/11-foods-that-get-your-sex-drive-going-naturally.html
Because a well fed and healthy Bull will fuck you so much better....and (if its your sort of thing) leave behind some healthy sperm for a tasty little cuckolds treat. :)
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
Jenna Jameson flogs David Duke over claim Jews rule porn.
Never thought I'd see the day when a former porn star and recent convert argues with a racist KKK type of guy over whether or not some Jewish people dominate the pornography business. It might just be me....but this world seems to be getting nuttier and crazy every single day. :)
Monday, December 5, 2016
Men are Pigs.
Or is that swine?
Or is mankind swine?
Or Atheists? :)
Still thinking of making this...but just haven't got around to it yet :)
Sunday, December 4, 2016
Whips. Penis Whips. Pocket or Purse Whips.
You know....for whipping body parts of people that deserve it, or desire it, or both. Bend them over, pants down and....:)
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Saturday, December 3, 2016
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