She does what she wants without asking you...especially if it comes to sleeping around. You know going into the relationship she fully has dishonorable and sexually sadistic intentions....and you marry her anyway.
Your wife is talking to men she sleeps with about how to "handle you" and vice versa. As in maybe how to dominate and/or humiliate you....and whether or not you have to "handle" his dick....or more......should either demand it.
You both understand that emotional attachment can not be overlooked or minimized, but jumping into bed with superior men can be dealt with. Sexual betrayal is not the same as emotional betrayal.
She enjoys telling you how much fun she has talking to her lover about your (her cuckold husband) humiliation. She likes to discuss if her lover and husband should be friends, knowing this shocks and humiliates you.
You grasp that a cheating wife does not equate a rotten wife. Sexual cruelty does not mean an absence of love. She and her lover enjoy sharing drinks between your and his home......the liquor you paid for and delivered.....and you don't even drink. You had to learn the hard way, that discretion may apply to a hotwife, but a cuckoldress flaunts it and shoves your face in it....literally....and might make you lick it clean. She acknowledges your jealousy, rancor, damaged, wounded and hurt macho pride when she has her sexual dalliances, and does it anyway. Twice as fast and often.
Does she sleep around to "fluff" up a vulnerable ego? No, her affairs are for her sexually greedy pleasure. She has no need to inflate her self esteem and reassure her desirability by fucking other men. Her confidence is secure. Besides, the word "fluffing" might just be reserved for you.
Discussion and honesty between the two of you is paramount, even though it may hurt you, and humiliation wise, especially because it will hurt you.....and create blue balls and lust for her, which she has in an odd way for you, but she'll deny it and make you suffer even more. That's just the way it is in a nice but very kinky "love" story. :)